Face your fears and spare yourself the suffering


What we fear the most also always causes our suffering. The simplest way to overcome fear is to allow it to possess you. Don’t hate it. Don’t run away from it. Just let it take over. When fear takes control, your physical being will be impacted, possibly your mind too will be affected, but your inner core, your soul will be unmoved, undisturbed. Through the awareness of this state, through realizing that your soul is impregnable, that nothing can affect the real ‘you’, you will transcend fear. You will find joy!

We all fear different things. At different times. From people to events to thoughts to memories to outcomes to conversations __ we fear a lot. We work overtime to avoid fear. And the more we avoid it, the more we are tormented by it. Instead overpower your worst fears by facing up to them.

For example, it is possible that you have been avoiding a difficult conversation because you know that nasty sentiments will be expressed and you don’t want it. As long as you don’t have that conversation and keep avoiding it, it will keep dominating your thinking. The fear will chew you up. Instead let the conversation happen. Allow yourself to be in total fear when the conversation happens. No problem. But through that fear you will actually discover that you have transcended it. That you have had the strength to face it, overcome and overpower it. It is almost magical. Possibly, your situation may be even more grave. One that may involve a physical conflict perhaps. Or one of dealing with a dominating opponent. Maybe you fear losing your job or even your Life. Again, interestingly, the same logic applies. Be fearful. But don’t run. Turn and face whoever, whatever is the source of your fear. Look the fear-causing source in the eye. And watch how your fear slowly leads you to an awareness, to an awakening that makes you connect with your inner core, your true Self.

Osho, the Master, describes this the best: “Only one thing is to be understood: when you allow fear and you tremble — watch it, enjoy it; and in that watching you will transcend it, you will see the body is trembling, you will see the mind is trembling, but you will come to feel a point within you, a deep center, which remains unaffected. The storm passes by, but somewhere deep within you is a center which is untouched: the center of the cyclone.”

Living in fear and suffering is meaningless. We have to learn to take the bull by the horns. The only thing that can erase fear is the act of facing up to it. Fear is a good chaser. It likes to gnaw at your heels but can never look you in the eye. So, face your fears today. And watch your suffering fade away. Facing fear may not end the pain. But it will surely spare you the suffering!


Author: AVIS Viswanathan

the happynesswala - Inspired Speaker, Life Coach and Author of "Fall Like A Rose Petal"; Inspiring 'Happyness'!

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