Yesterday, I was with a friend who has got caught in a web of circumstances, all of them caused by his congenital tendency to lie. In fact his children called him a compulsive liar and did not want to do have anything to do with him, anymore. As my friend shared the list of choices he had made and the actions he had pursued, it appeared that he had unwittingly spun a web of deceit, some of them circumstantial – getting out of which now called for him to face the harsh realities of Life and which could take a long, very long time.
Why is it so difficult to face reality and speak the truth – in any context or situation? People chose to lie because it is convenient. Often times, people are even lying to themselves when they are refusing to see the reality and are in denial. Or they are dressing up the reality to show a different face to the world or themselves. But this is so hypocritical. The idea of truth is that there are no versions. Whatever is, is the truth. Analyzing a situation and arguing in your favour does not change the truth in any way. It only makes you believe that the situation you are imagining and conjuring up is the truth. This is the way that people fool themselves and get into a trap of covering up, lying and running away from the reality, until, as in my friend’s case, they cannot run or hide any more.
This is true of all situations in Life – of habits, in relationships, in business and even in the way we think and feel about ourselves and our emotional states. A simple principle to follow is to ask yourself if you are running away from something in Life and if whatever you know, see and feel is the truth. If it indeed is, irrespective of situation or consequence, simply stay with that truth. Life may appear to be complex with the truth but it surely will be peaceful. And when you are at peace with yourself, you can face anyone or any situation in Life!