We all want to be happy but none of us wants to work toward it, for it or on it!
Being happy is not hard work but requires hard decision-making. But we are not ready to make those hard decisions or those important choices. Which is why we stay pining for happiness while it is pretty much within our reach. To be happy we must choose between focusing on what we have and what we haven’t. As long as we focus on what we don’t have, we will never be happy. Another reason for our unhappiness is that we don’t practice detachment. When we are aware and conscious of the reality that we came with nothing and will go with nothing, we will be detached from whatever we gain or lose in this lifetime__money, relationships, material things and even opinions, either our own or of others. From detachment comes happiness. The third reason why we don’t find happiness is that we tend to give too much importance to fear__of the unknown future, of not being around in some time, of death, of leaving unfinished business on this planet. The way to deal with this fear is to know that when we are dead, and gone, we will not even know we are dead. So, why fear something that we will never know? Also, why grieve now for a state that is yet to arrive?
So, to be happy, just focus on what is, let go and stop fearing, among other things, death. There are simple choices that you can make. The harder part is to stay with these choices. That and that alone can guarantee a lifetime of happiness.