Listen to your inner voice

Take the whole responsibility for your Life. Do not let someone else decide what is good or bad for you.
Each of us has an inner core in which our peace and bliss lie embedded. These are our ‘inbuilt features’ that were a part of us even as we were created. However, instead of knowing that our core is programmed for peace and bliss, we operate at the periphery. Nothing wrong in flirting with non-essential and periphery things__the materialism that pervades our world__except that we cannot expect to find peace and bliss in the periphery. When we don’t find peace and bliss, we become impatient, distressed, jealous, even angry with Life. And so we start look to Godmen and perform special prayers in places of worship, expecting the cloud to clear. And hope fervently for peace and bliss to descend into our Lives. Interestingly, however, peace and bliss must ascend from within you and not descend into you! And no soothsayer, no Godman, no self-styled messiah can show you the way to your inner core. When you know that you have the ability to Live a Life of purpose, true love, peace and bliss, why would you need someone to assist you?
Osho, the Master, says this, ever so beautifully, “When you are singing then what is the need for the singer? Let the singer melt into the song, and each moment of Life starts taking the qualities of truth, of beauty, of blissfulness.”
Don’t look outside of you for directions to Intelligent Living. Listen to your inner core, your inner voice, do whatever your true nature is. Even if you go wrong occasionally, you will learn from it, but, remember, you will never lose your way! When you are responsible for __ and in __ your Life, you will find peace and bliss!

Happiness involves taking tough calls

We all want to be happy but none of us wants to work toward it, for it or on it!
Being happy is not hard work but requires hard decision-making. But we are not ready to make those hard decisions or those important choices. Which is why we stay pining for happiness while it is pretty much within our reach. To be happy we must choose between focusing on what we have and what we haven’t. As long as we focus on what we don’t have, we will never be happy. Another reason for our unhappiness is that we don’t practice detachment. When we are aware and conscious of the reality that we came with nothing and will go with nothing, we will be detached from whatever we gain or lose in this lifetime__money, relationships, material things and even opinions, either our own or of others. From detachment comes happiness. The third reason why we don’t find happiness is that we tend to give too much importance to fear__of the unknown future, of not being around in some time, of death, of leaving unfinished business on this planet. The way to deal with this fear is to know that when we are dead, and gone, we will not even know we are dead. So, why fear something that we will never know? Also, why grieve now for a state that is yet to arrive?
So, to be happy, just focus on what is, let go and stop fearing, among other things, death. There are simple choices that you can make. The harder part is to stay with these choices. That and that alone can guarantee a lifetime of happiness.

Make sure what you say inspires and does not alienate

In Life__particularly in a relationship__never ever say or do anything that you cannot take back.
Almost anybody in a relationship will vouch for the fact that there will be ups and downs. When two people are together there are always bound to be disagreements. And sometimes the aftertaste of a disagreement may linger on. It is important at such times not to use public fora to vent your frustrations. Such issues and disagreements are best cleared and resolved in private. Even if they take a long time. If something is not getting resolved, you are probably addressing the person involved and not the issue. As simple as that. Because there’s no issue that two people cannot sit across the table and resolve. So, barring praise for your spouse, partner, companion or friend, there should ideally be no other sentiment made in public. If you can’t praise, be silent. But don’t ridicule, rib or make statements to get even in public. This applies to marital relationships and also to professional and other personal relationships.
Ideally, the best way to look at someone that you disagree with is to look at what about them, despite all their weaknesses, inspires you. Look for the good in people, you will see and say only good. Because, as someone has wisely said, “A careless word may kindle strife, A cruel word may wreck a life, A timely word may lessen stress, A loving word may heal and bless.”