Your awareness holds the key to dealing with depressive mood spirals.
Yesterday, while out on my evening walk, I met someone who introduced himself as a reader of my Book, ‘Fall Like A Rose Petal’ (Westland, August 2014). He said he was deeply influenced by my Book. He said he had been depressed for over a year because he had lost his job. And however hard he tried, his efforts to secure a job didn’t yield any results. He almost got a job in the Middle-East, but his prospective employer rejected him on health grounds – his medical review threw up a benign condition, but the employer did not want to take any chances. Being out of work meant that his savings dried up soon. While his wife is employed and they get a rental income from an apartment that they own, this man’s inability to land a job drove him to depression. “I started looking at my Life differently after reading your Book. I felt that your situation is far worse than my own. And I was inspired by the positive outlook that you and your wife have towards Life. Thank you for sharing your story with the world,” he said.
I was deeply touched by the man’s sentiments about Vaani and me and my Book. Further, I believe there is value in considering his perspective on dealing with depression.
First, let us remember that depression cannot be avoided. At some time, or the other, in Life, when the odds are stacked up against you, when things don’t go according to a plan that you have laid out, you will feel depressed. It is a normal human response when you are unable to make sense of your Life. But the way to deal with depression is to face it rather than trying to avoid it or hide from it. Face it and reason with yourself – what about your Life is beyond your control and what about it is in your control? Focus clearly on the latter. Then sit up and look around you. Everywhere you look, you will find people are coping valiantly with far more numbing situations. Let this awareness help you count your blessings. When you approach your depression with this clarity and honesty, you will find that it doesn’t weigh you down anymore. It is there but it is not holding you hostage.
Simply, the more aware you become of the nature of Life, and look beyond you, around you, you will realize that your depression is a luxury that you can ill-afford!