Don’t let your limiting beliefs and fears hold you to ransom. Instead feed your happiness!
A young reader from Ludhiana pinged me on Facebook for my views on astrology. He wrote: “I don’t really believe in it as I think at it interferes with my Life and stops us from doing things that we wish to do. But my dad sees it as other way round.” Now, this is something I am often asked by people who have read my Book or have known me. In fact, my own son, Aashirwad, has asked me why such a rational, logical person like me takes to astrology. So, let me share what I have understood and learnt of astrology.
Astrology is a science like any other. There are two reasons why it has a sullied reputation: (a) some of the practitioners of astrology are merely pretenders; they prey on gullible customers and so people who have lost their money consulting with such touts blame the science itself (b) people expect astrology and astrologers to solve their problems; the expectation itself is misplaced – astrology works like a dashboard on your car does, it is an indicator of what you are going through in Life; it cannot change your Life for you. So, when you go to an astrologer, be sure you choose the right one. Just as you don’t want to consult with a tout if you have a legal issue or a health condition, you shouldn’t be consulting with an astrologer who wants you to perform rituals and poojas promising to “rid” you of all your problems. A good astrologer, a learned and truly professional one, will merely cast your horoscope and tell you what phase in Life you are going through. If the weather is turbulent, you will be advised to fasten your seatbelt and trust the pilot – which is, you may want to pray and trust a Higher Energy. If the phase is extremely conducive to you, you will be told that “this is a great time” which really means that there’s tail wind that will fill your sails and so you can expect smooth sailing. Beyond this, a sound and sincere astrologer will not say anything. So, anyone saying more than this, is attempting to be a soothsayer or, to put it bluntly, is a hoodwinker! Astrology has to be used. If its practitioners are using you, controlling you, then you need to make a choice. But don’t blame the science for the choices you make. Simply, the dashboard in your car can tell you the temperature outside, the fuel, oil and coolant levels, the distance covered; it can give you directions to get from point A to point B, but the car has to be driven by you. Astrology is pretty much that – just a dashboard of planetary parameters influencing your Life! You still have to live your Life and go through it.
I use astrology as a source of information. Just as I use Google. I sift through all data, all information I receive and then make an informed choice. Important, I hold myself accountable for the choices I make. Clearly I don’t let astrology limit me. Interestingly, I don’t let anything or anyone limit me. So, this principle that I follow encompasses all aspects of my Life, not just astrology. For instance, I was on a flight some months ago and the passenger next to me was a CEO I know. He asked me, “AVIS, I know you are going through such a grave crisis. I know you and Vaani are exceptionally strong and resilient. But what will happen if your health takes a beating? You guys are no longer young. And you don’t even have an insurance cover any more?” I replied: “I have faith that the Higher Energy that created me will provide for me even if I don’t have an insurance cover. And I don’t imagine scenarios that haven’t yet arrived.” Not that the CEO’s question was wrong. He was being practical. But I refuse to let fear or insecurity limit me. I believe this is the best way to be happy and peaceful. Else, you will be held to ransom by all your limiting beliefs, fears and anxieties.
Yesterday another reader, from New Delhi, shared her struggle with insecurity with me. “The fear of failing health doesn’t let go,” she wrote. I replied: “Don’t expect fear to let go. You must let go of fear! Fear is a debilitating force only as long as you don’t let go. Failing health must encourage you to live better. Because in some time you are going to be more incapacitated than you are now. And if you are worried about being a burden on your family and such, again let go. What can you do when your health fails? Can you help it? With advancing age, each of us is going to lose our temporarily able-bodied status sooner or later. Remember, we are all speeding towards our death, albeit at different speeds!”
Whether it is expecting astrology to solve your problems, or expecting Life to be the way you want it to be, ultimately, you create your own suffering. Because nothing – and no one – can either live your Life for you or solve your problems for you. You have to go through everything that you have to go through before your number – to depart – is called. So, while you are here, while you are faced with Life, look it in the eye and learnt to live fully, wholesomely, despite your circumstances. Fear or happiness – only the one you feed will grow. I feed my happiness. What about you?