Acceptance is the key to inner peace.
There will be times in Life when nothing will work according to your plans although you have planned and executed well. Instead of feeling frustrated and depressed, you must treat this as a sign that you must let go of wanting to control your Life and simply go with the flow. Only then can you be at peace with yourself and your circumstances.
A friend of mine has been looking for a job for the last 15 years. He’s a very talented man and has over four decades experience in his domain. Yet, there’s no one who’s willing to employ him. He keeps himself going doing short-term assignments from time to time. He’s tried and tried and continues to try. But you will never find him tired of trying or depressed. He tells me, “I can do nothing to avoid the pain that rejection, especially continuous rejection, gives me. But I don’t let it get to me. I take it as a divine sign that this is the way it is meant to be.”
Indeed that is the only way you must look at Life when you don’t get what you want. It is only when you rue the fact that you have not got what you want or that you have got what you don’t want that you start suffering. I have learnt that while you can’t be choosy about pain – it is inevitable, it will come at will – you can surely choose not to suffer. And that you can do only by accepting whatever you get.
Acceptance does not mean you should stop trying. It only means that you must develop the sagacity to understand that while you can be in control of your actions, the results are something that are never in your hand. So accept outcomes for what they are and keep moving.
Finding inner peace is not difficult. Accepting that you cannot always get what you want is what is difficult. But if you look around you, there are so many, many millions of people out there who live on without getting what they want. And many, many of them are also learnt to be happy with what they have. You too can learn the art of being happy despite your circumstances. Just stop fighting, stop resisting and start appreciating what you have. Inner peace will follow.