Ask yourself, every time, if you really need to fight?
In continuation of my blogposts from yesterday and from the day before, I have an additional perspective to share on fighting the good fight while remaining unmoved and untouched. And which is to always ask yourself first, before getting embroiled in a conflict, “Do I really need to fight this person or this situation?” Assessing whether you must fight at all is a great way to retain your sanity and inner peace.
To be sure, not all situations require you to confront them and fight. In fact, on a spiritual plane, the best way to win any battle is not to fight at all. There is a way how, in Life’s scheme of things, what goes around comes around. So, cosmic retribution works – and works like a song. Even if you don’t take up cudgels against someone’s unfair methods, Life eventually will. This is how Life operates. But even if you don’t buy into this point of view, just the awareness of how much energy you will conserve by avoiding a fight should serve as motivation enough for you not to dive headlong into battle. But walking away from conflict is never easy. Your mind will keep reminding you that you must fight. It will entice you into battle. So, understanding your mind and training it to obey you is crucial. This comes, like almost everything else in Life, with practice.
I have, through training my mind, learned to look at every conflict situation dispassionately. I ask myself each time if my ego will be pampered when I fight. And if it apparently will be I don’t fight. I don’t try to teach someone any lessons either. Not anymore. I have learnt that we must press a matter only if we believe that highlighting an issue will help a larger cause or more number of people connected with the issue. So, this means, I no longer have any interest in settling scores with people who have been unkind and unjust to me. Or simply, I trust the process of Life and leave most situations, well, for want of a better word, unbattled.
This has helped me immensely in many ways. But most significantly it has helped me in my strained relationship with my mother and siblings. (Read more here: Fall Like A Rose Petal). I have learnt to be non-judgmental through the process of choosing to not fight. Being this way is truly remarkable – the amount of inner peace it has delivered unto me is immeasurable. So, now, I have developed a great detachment with these relationships – and, important, there’s no feeling of either being victimized or wanting to avenge anything or anyone!
Leaving a situation unbattled really means gifting yourself inner peace. It means choosing happiness over unhappiness and suffering. It means, simply, living intelligently!