On being the light yourself!

Your Life will be as dark as you imagine it to be.
Over these last few days of Diwali fervor, there’s so much talk about darkness and light, on social media that it’s assuming an almost banal proportion. People are mindlessly talking about dispelling the darkness around them with light – ostensibly with candles and diyas, and firecrackers. It’s almost as if a social media status or an utterance or wishing over SMS or WhatsApp can make anyone’s Life brighter. I am not being cynical. I am only calling for a greater degree of reflection. What about the darkness within? How will you dispel it?
This reflection requires that you first understand the meaning of darkness in a Life context. Almost all of us are steeped in worry, insecurity, anxiety, guilt, anger, grief and fear. This is the darkness that grips our soul. And the true message of Diwali is to trust Life and allow your faith to light you up from within. As our lives get challenged by events, people and circumstances, we often tend to worry over what will happen to us, we fear the unknown future – and these are what are causing us to feel that our lives are filled with darkness. In such times, we must learn to keep the faith – and learn to be the light ourselves. Metaphorically, when you find yourself in a dark, endless tunnel and you don’t see the light at the end of that tunnel, your faith can be your light!
Where does such faith come from? It comes from a deeper understanding of Life. It comes from knowing that if you have been created, you will be looked after, cared for and provided for – no matter what the circumstances may be. However, Life’s provisions are never to meet your wants. Yet all that you need will be available to you when you need it the most. I am reminded of a beautiful song from “Panakkaran” (1990, P.Vasu, Rajnikanth, Gauthami, Ilayaraaja), sung by Ilayaraaja. The song goes like this: “Maratha Vecheven Thanni Oothuvan…” meaning “The one who planted (created) the tree will water it too…”. If you follow Tamil, you can listen to the song here.

This song epitomizes the true nature of Life. It reminds us that all our worries, anxieties and fears serve no purpose. That what will happen will happen, no matter how much you worry. And no matter what happens, you will still be taken care of by Life, not the way you want to be, but the way you must be. When you don’t hold this faith in Life, when you don’t trust the cosmic design, you grope in the darkness that you have invited into your Life. So, truly, you are responsible for your Life being filled with darkness. The moment you start trusting that a way will always be born to take you onward, despite all the darkness, you will see the light. And surely you will be that light too! 

You are the Light that you seek!

No matter what’s happening to you in Life, learn to just be a witness. Just be. Don’t fight. Don’t resist. Don’t detest. Be patient. Just accept. Just be. When you are this way, peace will engulf you, drenching you in bliss. You will then see yourself as the Light that you seek. 
When faced with Life’s inscrutable ways, we often spend a lot of time in denial__of what’s happening to us. Or we end up asking, ‘Why?’ or ‘Why Me?’. We hope that by asking, we will be answered. We hope to reason with Life. We demand logic.
But Life doesn’t understand those questions. Life doesn’t work that way. Life’s mechanical, in a manner of speaking, like a tennis ball machine, that keeps spewing out ball after ball – event after event, experience after experience. Non-stop. When the experience that comes your way meets or exceeds your expectations, you call it opportunity. You say ‘WOW!, Life’s Great!’ When the ball that comes your way does not meet your expectations and shocks you, you say ‘Life Sucks!’ or you ask ‘Why?’ or ‘Why Me?’.
There’s no way you or I can control what comes our way. Instead of greeting what’s coming with shock, resistance and disbelief, we can be accepting and patient. This way, we can work on solving our problems to the extent we can or face each new day, and its attendant challenges, with grace and resolve. Remember each of Life’s experiences is to make you mature, better and stronger. Jalaluddin Rumi, the 13th Century Persian mystic and poet, said it so simply, so meaningfully: “No mirror ever became iron again; No bread ever became wheat; No ripened grape ever became sour fruit. Mature yourself and be secure from a change for the worse. Become the light.”
Which is, when we learn to be more accepting of Life, we become the light we seek!