There’s no point in regretting not doing anything in Life. It is never too late if you can go live the Life that you really want to!
Here’s an unsolicited tip to make your weekend qualitative: ask yourself what are your regrets in Life and get down to working on changing the way you live! You can call it your Bucket List or treat it as a Wake-Up Call – whatever, but simply don’t spend your time regretting the Life you have led so far. Rejoice with what is left of it!
|Bronnie Ware: Nurse, Author, Songwriter
|There’s some unputdownable evidence supporting this thinking that comes from a former nurse, Bronnie Ware, from Australia, who has spent several years in palliative care, looking after the dying, in the last 12 weeks of their lives. She recorded the thoughts of her dying patients in her blog www.inspirationandchai.comand later put out a book, compiling her observations, called ‘The Top Five Regrets of the Dying’. Ware found that most people, while dying, felt one or more of these regrets strongly and grieved over them until they made “peace with themselves”.
Regret # 1: “I wish I’d had the courage to live a Life true to myself, not the Life others expected of me.”
Regret # 2: “I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.”
Regret # 3: “I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.”
Regret # 4: “I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.”
Regret # 5: “I wish I had let myself be happier.”
It’s possible that you may connect with some of these sentiments yourself. But chances are business-as-usual, the bane of Life, will take over and force you to continue living a sub-optimal Life. People normally grow a lot when they are faced with their own death. You will have noticed this in your own family too. So, one sure way to get started, to live the Life you want, and to stay committed on the path, is to imagine that you have only this weekend or say this month or whatever limited time to live. What changes will you then make to your Life? What would you stop doing immediately? And what would you start doing? When your list is ready, go over it one more time. Be driven by a sense of urgency to live fully – so don’t look at things practically or realistically and don’t operate being limited by the constraints that surround you. Simply go after Life – as if death awaits you in the next moment, at the end of the day! If that really is the case, what are the things you will do? Just go do them. Day after day after day. You will then find that you will be a lot more happier with a lot less – less work to do, less money to make and less stress to handle!
I remember reading somewhere that “One day, as you are dying, your entire Life will play in front of your eyes. Make sure the flashback’s worth watching.” Bronnie Ware’s observations and her Top Five Regrets summary are something that I can deeply relate to. Up until when I was 37, which was some time ago, I lived Life in an unintelligent, imprudent way. I would have had those same regrets back then. But through some difficult, but conscious choices, that Life forced me to make, I have learnt that being happy with the Life you have is the biggest opportunity in front of each of us. We all have to go one day. But if you have been happy living, chances are, you will be happier dying – for there will be fewer, or even no, regrets with the Life you have lived!