No mistake is a sin – don’t get stuck feeling guilty!

Guilt cripples you. Let go of your guilt, forgive yourself, and move on!
Often times in Life we do make mistakes. And the cost of those mistakes ends up being very high. In private, when you are alone, your guilt will cause you immense suffering – just the realization, that with some prudence you could have avoided making that mistake, will make you feel miserable. When you have come to that realization, don’t belabor the guilt. Let it go. Forgive yourself.
Whatever be the context or situation of your guilt, whether it is to yourself, or to another, apologize sincerely. If you have hurt another person and that person is not willing to accept your apology, don’t grieve. Let your effort be sincere. Present your apology to the Universe, to a Higher Energy. The key is to understand that guilt is like excess baggage. You can’t move freely carrying a burden in you. The baggage has to be set down, it has to be offloaded. Only then can you make way of inner peace. Only then can you ascend in Life!
Don’t go on this trip to condemn yourself for what you have done or caused. No amount of guilt can change the past. The past is over. It’s dead. Your guilt will only heighten your suffering. Feeling guilty is not the same as atoning for your mistake. Guilt is a personal, selfish emotion. Atonement is selfless and seeks ways and means beyond the individual to express itself. If you can atone, well, that’s great. But even if you can’t atone, dropping your guilt is a good way to progress. No mistake is a sin. It is just a sign that you need to pause and reflect on your actions, on their consequences, on Life and on the learnings it is offering you. You may well have to face the consequences of your actions, you may have to pay the price for your mistakes, you may have to learn your lessons the hard way. Seeking forgiveness is the first step, however, to move on – and, hopefully, to repair and rebuild. So, don’t get stuck feeling guilty! There’s a lot more to experience and learn from Life – just remember, if you genuinely feel guilty over what happened, don’t repeat the same mistake another time!

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Decide to be decisive in Life


There’s nothing good or bad, right or wrong about the way you live. Life is all about making decisions. And we are making them all the time. Obviously, no one wants to make wrong choices or decisions. So, even if you take a questionable__in the eyes of an onlooker__one, you keep at it because you believe it is the right thing to do. So, in reality, Life’s essence is about learning from each experience__drawn from decisions and choices you make__and being happy!

Understand that decision-making is intrinsically, always, fraught with risk. So if you are scared of the unknown, if you are afraid of taking risks and decide not to take decisions or exercise choices, now, that itself is a poor decision and a lousy choice. Let us say, this Monday morning, you have a choice between catching up on your mail or on facebook on the commute to work. You are here and reading this post because you chose facebook over mail. There’s a possibility you could have chosen your mail over facebook, in which case you would have missed the learning this post has to offer. Or possibly you could have chosen to do neither and simply ridden to work in silence. Now, riding to work quietly, choosing not to be distracted by anything, is a decision too. Any of these three decisions could mean something or nothing at all. Spending time on facebook could have cost you a customer opportunity. Or wading through hundreds of banal work-related mails, you could have missed connecting with an old buddy from school on facebook. Or you could have missed energizing yourself through embracing silence during the hour-long commute. So anything could have happened.

There are no set ways of doing things. Just as there are no assurances of outcomes. Simply, Life offers no guarantees. Life’s really about deciding what’s right for you at a moment, making that choice and standing by it, while learning from it.

Often times, your decision may blow up on your face. The world will say, “we told you so!”. But get up, dust yourself and move on. If not now, sometime soon, you will learn that it is perfectly fine to lose money, lose health, lose relationships and lose people in Life. Because nothing is permanent. And when you realize this through decisions and choices you have made, your awakening will be that much more complete. You will then know that although French philosopher Rene Descartes (1596~1650) championed that all choices must be logically thought out and only then executed (‘Cogito ergo sum’ – I think therefore I Am), too much analysis also leads to paralysis. It is enough if you know that every moment of your living, waking Life, you are making decisions. Some of them may work well. And you learn from them. Some of them may not work for you at all. The key is to learn from them too and resolve never to make the same mistake twice!