Honest conversations are the best means to grow relationships.
Underline honest. Most of us are in one relationship or the other at any point in time. Parent-Child, Husband-Wife, Boss-Team member, between siblings, Teacher-Student, between companions, whatever. And we love most of the people in those relationships. We may not see it this way all the time, but all these relationships need nurturing. And almost always, we fail to say what’s on our mind, because we are worried about hurting the other person with our honesty, transparency and opinions. Yet, we yearn for that other person to understand how we perceive her or him. In all these situations, it is always important to have these honest conversations – perhaps over a coffee. As the Café Coffee Day tagline goes, “A lot can happen over coffee!”
It may also be true, in some cases, that an honest conversation may not necessarily lead the other person to see reason and change himself or herself or their attitude towards you. It doesn’t mean your integrity hasn’t helped. It has. It gives you the opportunity to move on, now that you have shared what you honestly felt and always wanted to.
True love really means saying what you must, when you must without mincing words. Out of this an opportunity emerges for the relationship to get stronger, for the person you are having the conversation with to evolve into a better human being and that really is an important part of serving humanity.
To serve another, you don’t need to necessarily get involved in an NGO; all you need to do is to just have honest conversations.