No mistake is a sin – don’t get stuck feeling guilty!

Guilt cripples you. Let go of your guilt, forgive yourself, and move on!
Often times in Life we do make mistakes. And the cost of those mistakes ends up being very high. In private, when you are alone, your guilt will cause you immense suffering – just the realization, that with some prudence you could have avoided making that mistake, will make you feel miserable. When you have come to that realization, don’t belabor the guilt. Let it go. Forgive yourself.
Whatever be the context or situation of your guilt, whether it is to yourself, or to another, apologize sincerely. If you have hurt another person and that person is not willing to accept your apology, don’t grieve. Let your effort be sincere. Present your apology to the Universe, to a Higher Energy. The key is to understand that guilt is like excess baggage. You can’t move freely carrying a burden in you. The baggage has to be set down, it has to be offloaded. Only then can you make way of inner peace. Only then can you ascend in Life!
Don’t go on this trip to condemn yourself for what you have done or caused. No amount of guilt can change the past. The past is over. It’s dead. Your guilt will only heighten your suffering. Feeling guilty is not the same as atoning for your mistake. Guilt is a personal, selfish emotion. Atonement is selfless and seeks ways and means beyond the individual to express itself. If you can atone, well, that’s great. But even if you can’t atone, dropping your guilt is a good way to progress. No mistake is a sin. It is just a sign that you need to pause and reflect on your actions, on their consequences, on Life and on the learnings it is offering you. You may well have to face the consequences of your actions, you may have to pay the price for your mistakes, you may have to learn your lessons the hard way. Seeking forgiveness is the first step, however, to move on – and, hopefully, to repair and rebuild. So, don’t get stuck feeling guilty! There’s a lot more to experience and learn from Life – just remember, if you genuinely feel guilty over what happened, don’t repeat the same mistake another time!

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Being Guilty is Being Foolish


To be completely free, and live freely, free yourself of all guilt!
Guilt cripples. It comes between you and your joy! It is a wasteful emotion that debilitates a person completely. To free yourself of guilt, you must treat every effort you make as a learning. As yet another small experiment in this larger experiment called Life.
You feel guilty in the first place because you are so attached to the process of doing something that when it doesn’t get done the way you want it to, you feel morally accountable. But have you considered that Life doesn’t insist on anything from us? It doesn’t have definitions of success or failure. There are no SOPs – standard operating procedures, in Life! Then why do you insist that an outcome must be only the way you have envisioned it! It is only from that insistence that guilt is born. So, wouldn’t it be simpler if you had no attachment to what comes from your actions, choosing only to learn from each experience?
Sometimes things just happen to us. Or we may simply end up being at a place at a time, contributing unwittingly to an activity that will come to haunt us later. Or sometimes we may have just done or said something which may create a sense of pain in us when we pause to reflect. Every which way, feeling guilty after saying or doing something that you ought not to have said or done is completely in vain. Grieving over what you have done or could have done is the most futile of all emotions.
In the new Hindi movie ‘Talaash’, the main protagonist Inspector Surjan Singh Shekawat (played so brilliantly by Aamir Khan) carries the burden of his guilt, suffering immensely as he does that! He agonizes over it, in each of his waking moments and does not even get sleep! It is only when he realizes that he didn’t choose this Life, which he is currently experiencing, but that Life chose him, does his grief subside, his guilt evaporates and he awakens.
Ideally, you must not do anything that makes you feel guilty. But when you get caught in the throes of everyday living and your actions do cause you to feel guilty later, treat the event as simply an event. Learn from it. Don’t lean on it! What are the few things that we often feel guilty about? We get angry with someone and regret it later. We cheat and feel miserable when we reflect on our action __ especially when we are not caught cheating. We overindulge in loose conversation or alcohol or food in a social setting and say and do more than we must have. These occurrences are common place and all of us are prone to feeling guilty after we conduct ourselves in the manner in which we did. The mind will insist that you have lost your self-esteem and that you must redeem yourself. This is when brooding begins and you start descending down a negative, depressive spiral. Cut out the self-pity and focus on what caused you to behave in the way you did in the first place.
Or sometimes you could feel guilty over what you could have done in a situation that once existed. You could have been more responsible or loyal or compassionate or sensible. But ‘could have done’ is a review of the past. Some place in time that you cannot go back to anymore! What is the point in feeling guilty over an event that you cannot contribute to anymore?
In a way, truly, being guilty is being foolish. Life is not a six sigma process. There are no minimum error rate thresholds that anyone is demanding. Then why are you inflicting one on yourself? Life is about living, enthusiastically, trying out new things, being adventurous and learning from what outcomes you get and from what situations that you are given. Only when you live your Life with this simple understanding in mind, will you be happy. Guilt then subtracts from your happiness. Do you really want to not be happier than you are? As ‘Talaash’s’ tagline says __ the answer lies within!