Detachment is neither impractical nor impossible!


To stay detached is neither impractical nor impossible. 
You have heard of detachment before. You have been advised to stay detached too. Chances are you may have tried it and failed. Even the Bhagavad Gita’s profound teaching __ “Do your Duty while staying Detached from the Outcome”__ often times, while sounding beautiful, seems so, so difficult to internalize and implement. 
Well, it really is not so. 
 
Here’s a ‘Detachment for Dummies’ perspective. You may want to consider it.
First, just give up trying to evaluate every opportunity in Life on the basis of money. Making money is not a bad idea. But recognize that money can only buy things. It can make Life comfortable. But it can’t ever make Life meaningful. 
Second, simplify Life. Give away anything that you have not used in six months except your passport and important documentation! 
Third, every day, forgive three people who come into your life who will not matter three weeks from now. 
Fourth, every now and then, forgive yourself for the poor decisions you took, the sad choices you made and for any of your irreverent and irresponsible actions. 
Finally, understand the impermanency of Life and money. Our biggest tragedy is we love things and use people. We love (and stay attached to) things that money can buy and use people (to make that money)! Flip that paradigm: love people and use things. And when you love people know that they too will be gone, someday, because Life is such __ impermanent! 
Detachment for Dummies
 Really, intelligent living is about doing what you can do best and staying calm, accepting whatever comes your way. Because try as hard as you may, you really can’t stop the course that Life takes. All of our frustration comes because we want to control Life. Nothing can be more absurd. More stupid. It is like trying to squeeze water in your palm! When we can’t control our own lives, how can we control the lives of others in our circle of influence? Yet, we expect people to behave in a manner that we desire, we expect Life to give us what we want and at those times, when neither happens, we bury ourselves in self-vested, ruinous emotions.
Countering this tendency is what detachment is all about. Detachment is not a difficult word nor is it impossible to practice. It simply means:
1. Exercise your right to righteous action and don’t crave for or worry about the outcomes.
2. Own the outcome of whatever you think and do, but don’t get burdened by it.
3. Love people. Forgive people. Let them go when they must!
This way, you may win some, lose some, but you will always be blissful, ever be detached and never be miserable!
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Choose Happiness over Security!


Between being happy and being secure, choose being happy. Because security is fake and guarantees nothing except consoling you that you are safe, despite the fact that you are not. 
You are as safe as you are in this moment.Your security transcends each moment. Because you will never be able to tell, ever, what will happen to you, of you, in the next moment. 
You, like many, will be rushing  to work at a job that you loathe, yet you cling on to it because of a fake sense of security your pay check guarantees you. You think you are secure if you have money, if you have a social standing, if you have a well-heeled job and if you have a house to call your own. 
Security comes from the quantum of how much you possess. Happiness comes from being content with whatever you possess. 
The problem with seeking too much security is that what you try to possess will eventually end up possessing you. If you have a million dollars in the bank and have lost your job, invariably every thought of yours will concern you depleting the bank balance with every delay that your job search encounters. Clearly, the bank balance is possessing you now. On the other hand, if you want to be happy, all you need to do is to consider yourself lucky that you have a bank balance to live off this ignominious time while you search for a job in this horrible economy. It is also really foolish on our part that we should feel insecure. Because from the time you were born, you have lived each moment without knowing what will happen in the next. Which means you are an expert at dealing with the unknown, with insecurity. 
Yet, you fear it all the time? 
We are experts at dealing with the unknown!
Life is a bungee jump into the unknown in each new moment. And all of us have been doing it effectively, efficiently all these years of our lives. So, a sense of security is a wasted sentiment. You don’t need it to live. You can live with insecurity, as you always have been living. Happiness however is crucial to live Life fully! If you have felt an emptiness, an incompleteness in you, it is not because you are insecure, but because you are not happy! 
Happiness is an opportunity that each moment is pregnant with. To be happy, you have to make a choice of letting go of the need to be secure. You will then be blessed with happiness!