If you understand Life, you will discover that you are never alone or lost!
Someone I know needs a lot of help to cope with his complex Life situation. While he is feeling helpless, he doesn’t want to ask for help. Because he feels his decisions and choices have led him to where he is in Life. So, he believes it is his responsibility to fix his Life himself. But he’s stuck in his situation. It is debilitating him. And he is exasperated. He is lost. But he refuses to ask for help or accept help that is coming his way.
Now, why do people prefer feeling helpless when they can actually seek, receive and do with a lot of help?
It may appear that such people are stuck in ego traps – they may be unwilling to accept that they need help. Or they may be fiercely independent and so they want to handle everything in their own time, space and way. Or they may feel morally inclined to resolve situations that they have brought upon themselves or created. I don’t to judge either of these – or other possible – scenarios. To each one their own. But a deeper understanding of Life’s true nature always helps.
First, you never cause or create anything. Neither your success nor your failure. Everything in Life is just another event or happening. Life happens through you. Not because of you. So, you are a mere instrument. Second, you are never alone. If you examine it closely, dispassionately, there is inter-dependency written all over your Life’s story; every strand in the fabric of your Life connects to someone else somewhere. Third, someone, somewhere, sometime has always gone through something very similar to what you are going through – so asking for help is an intelligent thing to do in terms of bringing expertise and experience to resolving a problem situation. Fourth, the world is full of non-judgmental, compassionate, loving people who are always available at all times to help each other – such people are willing to serve, often selflessly. And finally, when you find no one around you that you can ask for help, when you feel the whole world is against you, then let go, surrender and ask the Universe for help. Unfailingly, the Universe will always send you someone who will give you that helping hand or who will point you in a direction where you will find help!
If you understand these truths about Life, you will never feel alone or lost. Nor will you ever feel helpless.
In almost a decade of going through strife and upheavals in Life (read more here: Fall Like A Rose Petal), I have always found help coming our way. Every time someone’s dithered or closed a door on us, several others have come forward and helped us; and another door has always opened. That’s what makes Vaani and me believe, firmly, that it is indeed a beautiful world with beautiful people!