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Insure yourself against worry

That’s the most prudent investment you can make and it costs nothing!

A friend asked me if Vaani and I have health insurance. I smiled back at the question. Life’s been so tough on the material front, we have never managed to cover living expenses in a long, long time. (Read more here: Fall Like A Rose Petal). When work does come in, there is always a backlog of basics to be met or paid for; so, we have never really been able to commit to any long-term health or retirement-related plans. Besides, we can’t even contemplate investing in ourselves unless we begin to repay and pay off all our debt.

Now, that’s a practical, real-world answer. Let me also share a spiritual perspective here. The last time we held health or Life insurance policies was over 10 years ago. Interestingly, in this past decade, neither of us has ever been pinned down by the insecurity that we are not covered. And the only reason I can think of is that we both have learnt not to worry. We understand the futility of worrying. So, when a worrying thought arises in us, we talk to each other; together we watch the thought arise and subside. We don’t pick it up and so it does not linger on, haunting us.

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Even so, worrying about one’s health is a very natural response as you age. At 50-something, both of us have all the niggling issues that comes with an aging body. For instance, I have been advised a surgery and we don’t have the means for it. A visit to our ophthalmologist is long overdue for the same reason. A diabetic condition and a few unattended dental repairs make things no easier. But we understand that such is Life. As you age, your body will report wear and tear. If we had the means, we could have fixed them. But we don’t have the means. Then why worry about them? When my friend heard this point of view, he paused for a moment and then popped the next, inevitable, question: “What will you do when you are laid up in hospital and require an immediate, Life-saving, surgery?” I smiled at him again. My response is simple: why worry about what has not happened yet? Again, if we had had the means, we too would have invested in a plan that could have covered our age-related medical needs. But we don’t have the means. So, again, why worry about the yet-to-arrive, unborn, future? We trust Life implicitly. Let Life take care of us – after all, to quote Khalil Gibran, we are Life’s longing for itself!

This phase in our Life has taught me and Vaani that the most relevant, important, insurance we must all have is to insure ourselves against worry. And that insurance does not require a material premium at all. It costs nothing. It only requires that you trust the process of Life, understand the futility of worrying and stay prepared, ever-ready, to die. When you live this way, whether you have niggling problems or excruciating circumstances, you can only be living fully, happily!

Author AVIS ViswanathanPosted on March 22, 2017March 22, 2017Categories Inner Peace, Intelligent Living, Life, Spirituality, UncategorizedTags Art of Living, AVIS Viswanathan, Death, Fall Like A Rose Petal, Happiness, Health Insurance, Inner Peace, Insurance, Intelligent Living, Khalil Gibran, Let Go, Life, Life Insurance, Pain, Spirituality, Suffering, Uncategorized, Vaani, Worry1 Comment on Insure yourself against worry

Why ‘settling down’ is sinful

It is to live dangerously that we have been created!

Ever since senior journalist and TV anchor Rajdeep Sardesai asked Tennis ace Sania Mirza that question about ‘settling down and motherhood’ a couple of days ago, the question itself is being seen as an affront to gender equality. I believe going forward this question will be categorized as one among those that we must never ask a woman. I don’t disagree.

Further, while I believe that the entire argument in favor of ‘settling down’, if at all, must be gender neutral, I prefer to campaign for avoiding the very argument.

Anxious parents and a ‘holier-than-thou’ society define ‘settling down’ as ‘having an income, saving money, creating material assets, raising a family and begetting children’. It’s a simple thumb rule that the world expects you to conform to – “if you have attained adulthood, necessarily, you shall earn money, marry, buy a house and procreate”. If you notice, in the popular notion or context of ‘settling down’, no one talks about ‘being happy’. Which is why I find this ‘settling down’ discourse sinful.

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I believe we are missing the moot point here. The reason we have been created – to be sure, each of us has been born without our asking to be born; that’s incontrovertible evidence that we have been created – is not to merely ‘earn a living’. We have been created human so that we can experience the beauty and magic of this ‘uncertain, inscrutable’ Life and be happy. Osho, the Master, says we have ruined this experience by building a social framework, partly financial, partly material, and wholesomely driven by our wants and expectations, around something that can never be boxed or contained. Life is free-flowing, it has a mind of its own. It is unpredictable. And every moment of living is like a bungee jump, a deep dive into the unknown. Into this deep dive, by introducing a pay check, we think we have stemmed the uncertainty and made the whole experience predictable. Nothing can be farther from the truth. Financial security is an illusion – it is human-made and so doesn’t conform to Life’s free spirit. Which is why, despite all the money you may have, you still can’t fix some quirky health situations, you can’t unentangle complex relationship issues, you can’t buy happiness, you can’t find inner peace or you just can’t get a good night’s sleep!

Osho encouraged us to dump the false comfort that financial security gave us. He invited us to embrace uncertainty and live dangerously. He called his point of view ‘the joy of living dangerously’. He championed for a Life beyond ‘earning a living’, beyond the ‘slaving-earning-saving-procreating’ paradigm. He invited people to be happy, doing whatever gave them happiness. Alan Watts, the British philosopher, invited us to choose the Life we want to live by first imagining what we would be doing in a world where money was not an object. Joseph Campbell, the American mythologist and author, beseeched us to follow our bliss. All their clarion calls asked of us to choose to be happy even if it meant being unsettled. Happiness above all else, was their mantra. I completely agree with all of them.

For reasons that I can never understand or explain beyond what I share daily, here on this Blog, or what I have shared in my Book ‘Fall Like A Rose Petal’ (Westland), Vaani and I have been ‘living dangerously’ for years now. We have no money and we have ceased to seek financial security. Yet we are not insecure, we are not unhappy and we are not spending all our time – or sleepless nights – worrying. In a purely worldly sense we have still not “settled down” – we have no income, no savings, no assets, no health or Life insurance and a mountain of debt to repay – yet Life goes on for us. Just as it goes on for so, so many “unsettled” people around us, all over the world. The common thread that links all of us “unsettled folks” is that perhaps through discovering the “joy of living dangerously” we have learnt the art of “living in the now, in the present moment”. Let me hasten to add that living “unsettled” is very, very challenging no doubt, but it is the adventure that is the reward here! Which is why, having tasted that adventure, and enjoyed the reward, we find that “settling down” is perhaps sinful – if ever anything is sinful!

Author AVIS ViswanathanPosted on July 16, 2016July 16, 2016Categories UncategorizedTags Adventure, Alan Watts, Art of Living, AVIS Viswanathan, Bunjee Jump, Earning a Living, Fall Like A Rose Petal, Financial Security, Follow your Bliss, Gender Bias, Gender Equality, Gender-Inequality, Happiness, Happiness Curator, Health, Holier Than Thou, Inner Peace, Insecurity, Insurance, Intelligent Living, Joseph Campbell, Life Coach, Live Dangerously, Living, Osho, Rajdeep Sardesai, Sania Mirza, Settling Down, Sin, Sinful, Spirituality, The Adventure Is The Reward, The Joy of Living Dangerously, Uncategorized, Uncertainty, Unhappiness, Zen2 Comments on Why ‘settling down’ is sinful

Nothing – and no one – can change what you have to go through in Life!

Don’t let your limiting beliefs and fears hold you to ransom. Instead feed your happiness!

A young reader from Ludhiana pinged me on Facebook for my views on astrology. He wrote: “I don’t really believe in it as I think at it interferes with my Life and stops us from doing things that we wish to do. But my dad sees it as other way round.” Now, this is something I am often asked by people who have read my Book or have known me. In fact, my own son, Aashirwad, has asked me why such a rational, logical person like me takes to astrology. So, let me share what I have understood and learnt of astrology.

Astrology is a science like any other. There are two reasons why it has a sullied reputation: (a) some of the practitioners of astrology are merely pretenders; they prey on gullible customers and so people who have lost their money consulting with such touts blame the science itself (b) people expect astrology and astrologers to solve their problems; the expectation itself is misplaced – astrology works like a dashboard on your car does, it is an indicator of what you are going through in Life; it cannot change your Life for you. So, when you go to an astrologer, be sure you choose the right one. Just as you don’t want to consult with a tout if you have a legal issue or a health condition, you shouldn’t be consulting with an astrologer who wants you to perform rituals and poojas promising to “rid” you of all your problems. A good astrologer, a learned and truly professional one, will merely cast your horoscope and tell you what phase in Life you are going through. If the weather is turbulent, you will be advised to fasten your seatbelt and trust the pilot – which is, you may want to pray and trust a Higher Energy. If the phase is extremely conducive to you, you will be told that “this is a great time” which really means that there’s tail wind that will fill your sails and so you can expect smooth sailing. Beyond this, a sound and sincere astrologer will not say anything. So, anyone saying more than this, is attempting to be a soothsayer or, to put it bluntly, is a hoodwinker! Astrology has to be used. If its practitioners are using you, controlling you, then you need to make a choice. But don’t blame the science for the choices you make. Simply, the dashboard in your car can tell you the temperature outside, the fuel, oil and coolant levels, the distance covered; it can give you directions to get from point A to point B, but the car has to be driven by you. Astrology is pretty much that – just a dashboard of planetary parameters influencing your Life! You still have to live your Life and go through it.

I use astrology as a source of information. Just as I use Google. I sift through all data, all information I receive and then make an informed choice. Important, I hold myself accountable for the choices I make. Clearly I don’t let astrology limit me. Interestingly, I don’t let anything or anyone limit me. So, this principle that I follow encompasses all aspects of my Life, not just astrology. For instance, I was on a flight some months ago and the passenger next to me was a CEO I know. He asked me, “AVIS, I know you are going through such a grave crisis. I know you and Vaani are exceptionally strong and resilient. But what will happen if your health takes a beating? You guys are no longer young. And you don’t even have an insurance cover any more?” I replied: “I have faith that the Higher Energy that created me will provide for me even if I don’t have an insurance cover. And I don’t imagine scenarios that haven’t yet arrived.” Not that the CEO’s question was wrong. He was being practical. But I refuse to let fear or insecurity limit me. I believe this is the best way to be happy and peaceful. Else, you will be held to ransom by all your limiting beliefs, fears and anxieties.

Temporarily Able Bodied to DeathYesterday another reader, from New Delhi, shared her struggle with insecurity with me. “The fear of failing health doesn’t let go,” she wrote. I replied: “Don’t expect fear to let go. You must let go of fear! Fear is a debilitating force only as long as you don’t let go. Failing health must encourage you to live better. Because in some time you are going to be more incapacitated than you are now. And if you are worried about being a burden on your family and such, again let go. What can you do when your health fails? Can you help it? With advancing age, each of us is going to lose our temporarily able-bodied status sooner or later. Remember, we are all speeding towards our death, albeit at different speeds!”

Whether it is expecting astrology to solve your problems, or expecting Life to be the way you want it to be, ultimately, you create your own suffering. Because nothing – and no one – can either live your Life for you or solve your problems for you. You have to go through everything that you have to go through before your number – to depart – is called. So, while you are here, while you are faced with Life, look it in the eye and learnt to live fully, wholesomely, despite your circumstances. Fear or happiness – only the one you feed will grow. I feed my happiness. What about you?

 

Author AVIS ViswanathanPosted on June 11, 2016June 11, 2016Categories UncategorizedTags Art of Living, Astrologers, Astrology, AVIS Viswanathan, Balan Nair, Buddha, CEO, Death, Fall Like A Rose Petal, Fear, Happiness, Health, Health Insurance, Higher Energy, Inner Peace, Insurance, Intelligent Living, Let Go, Life, Osho, Pain, Ramamohan Nair, Spirituality, Suffering, Uncategorized, Unhappiness, Worry, Zen1 Comment on Nothing – and no one – can change what you have to go through in Life!
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