Life has a mind of its own. It operates only on its terms and at its own pace.
The other day I watched the 1980 classic Shaan (Ramesh Sippy) one more time. In the film, in an outstandingly scripted (by Salim-Javed) comedy situation, Amitabh Bachchan’s character Vijay tells Parveen Babi’s character Sunita (after they are chased for driving away in someone else’s car with a stolen necklace): “Jab jab jo jo hota hai, tab tab woh woh hota hai!” It simply means that everything happens in its own time!
Despite the line being placed in a humorous context, it appealed to me at a deep, spiritual level. Osho, the Master, often narrated these three lines to help people understand Life better. He would say:
- Everything comes in its own time
- Everything comes when you are ripe
- Everything comes when you deserve it
If you review your own Life in the context of these three statements, you will find that anything you have got so far from Life, stuff you have welcomed and have wanted, has come only per these three dimensions of Life. You may have wanted something and may have been frustrated. And it has never come. You know your story better than anyone else. So, think back, and ask if you got anything you wanted any earlier or any later than when you finally got it? Were you not in total receiver mode to have got it? And you only got something when you truly deserved it.
This is how Life works. And this is also why we have to learn to be patient with Life. Patience is about simply understanding these three dimensions and reminding yourself of them every time your mind grieves or when frustration sets in.
But, unfortunately, we never quite consider Osho’s perspective. We are constantly impatient with people, events, circumstances, service, technology, and with Life, because fundamentally we want things to happen our way. But that’s just not going to happen. Over the years, having faced Life and learned from it, I have painfully discovered that being patient with Life is the only way. Impatience with Life is what leads to depression and suffering. It makes you miss the magic and beauty of Life.
Patience is all about trusting the process of Life. Trust that if you have been created, you will be looked after too. Trust that each challenge that comes your way is Life’s way of reminding you that you are not in control. When you trust Life, and learn to be patient, your problems won’t disappear. Yet, they will no longer worry you or bother you or torment you! You then begin to live fully, happily, despite your circumstances.