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Live-in, be BFFs, make lots of love, have children – do you really need to marry for doing all this?

Marriage is a hollow, irrelevant institution – it is perhaps the singular cause of gender inequality.

Last night, over dinner, Vaani and I had an interesting conversation with a friend’s daughter. We talked about marriage – and its increasing irrelevance.

This young lady is in a long-distance relationship. Her boyfriend comes from an affluent, conservative family. The boy’s parents are keen to have the engagement done now and the wedding sometime next summer. The young lady is not sure what she must do. She is wary of walking into a family which does not believe in the bahu, the daughter-in-law, following her own bliss and career. The girl’s brother is advising the couple not to rush into a marriage. His view: “Understanding each other is very critical before you end up in a marriage.”

I agree with him. In fact, although Vaani and I are married, I have come to see marriage as a totally avoidable practice. Here’s why I feel so – and this is what I shared with the young lady too last night.

In the garb of according societal approval and fulfilling religious norms, marriage actually, unnecessarily, limits Life between two people. Clearly, the reason why two people relate to each other for long periods of time is not because they are married. It is because there’s a friendship between them, they understand each other and are willing to be non-judgmental about each other despite the circumstances. This relating is continuous, and is never limited by gender, class, religion, nationality or language. Of course, to build and sustain this companionship, two people need not be necessarily married. On the other side of this view, people can stop relating to each other after being together for a considerable amount of time. It is very natural. But as we see all around us, it is only marriage that makes any divorce painful and messy. So, if you place societal requirements aside, marriage is irrelevant. What people do today while they are still in a marriage they can and will do even otherwise. They will either relate to each other and be great friends or they will grow out of liking each other and move on or they will stay together and have other relationships that will make them feel complete and fulfilled. But when they do all this without being married, they will do so while being a lot, lot more, happier.  Simply, they will experience total freedom and zero guilt in doing what they really want to do! If you examine society around you, there’s isn’t unputdownable evidence that supports the utility of marriage as a social contract – it has neither aided the building of great companionships nor has it prevented people from exploring Life outside of its framework. This is why, I believe, marriage is irrelevant.

The other problem that marriage has created is that it has, again unnecessarily, made a very basic human need, sex, appear illicit and salacious whenever it is indulged in outside of a marriage. This is outright ridiculous. As Osho, the Master, says, the bees, the birds, the fish, and every other species don’t find the act of having sex illicit. They do it freely. They don’t have any rules that promote monogamy and condemn polygamy. So, why are we humans outrageously supportive of this regressive framework called marriage that restricts free access to a basic human need, to a beautiful spiritual expression – sex?

Also, it is the imposition of the draconian code of conduct of marriage that has singularly led to gender inequality. This is particularly true in Indian society even though it is evident in several other cultures world-wide. Consider this: the moment she marries, a woman must serve the interests of the family, often at the cost of her career, her passion, her bliss. She must rear children. She must not step outside of the marriage, the relationship, even if she finds someone that she can relate to. But the man she married can do what he pleases, with whomever he chooses. And because she agreed to be subservient, and often just a doormat, if at all she dares to seek a divorce, she has to be at the mercy of her estranged husband and seek alimony for survival through an inert legal process, that’s always messy and emotionally draining! Doesn’t all this sound so stupid, so repulsive?

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I would any day champion that people just develop great friendships while living together. If they grow out of liking each other, they can, and must, move on. And if they want to procreate and have children, let it be a mutual choice, not a necessity. Yes, for reasons like securing passports or buying material assets, if there must be a piece of legal documentation, let there be. But don’t get wedded to the legalese. The real contract is in the spirit of togetherness – of a friendship, of relating to each other, of enjoying each other, of giving and receiving, of always being there for each other, no matter what the circumstances are. As I share in my Book Fall Like A Rose Petal  and in the film Rise In Love  (that a young film-maker made to understand how the companionship between Vaani and me thrived in the face of adversity), Vaani and I are friends first and then a married couple. In fact, if I was meeting Vaani now, I would not have chosen to have a marriage. We would have lived-in together and would still be loving each other as much as we do now. Our marriage has not helped us stay together. Our friendship has.

So, my (unsolicited) advice to my children, Aashirwad and Aanchal, and to anyone wanting some perspective is this – marry only if you want to; please don’t marry because society or family wants you to. It is a meaningless, irrelevant, practice. Between being stuck in a relationship and being able to relate to each other no matter what, relating to each other is more valuable. Between your marriage and your happiness, obviously, happiness wins hands down any day, doesn’t it?!

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Author AVIS ViswanathanPosted on October 30, 2016October 30, 2016Categories Fall Like A Rose Petal, Happiness, Osho, Rise In Love, UncategorizedTags Aanchal, Aashirwad, Art of Living, BFF, Companionship, Divorce, Fall Like A Rose Petal, Friendship, Gender Bias, Gender Equality, Gender-Inequality, Happiness, Inner Peace, Intelligent Living, Live-In Relationships, Marriage, Osho, Relating, Relationship, Relationships, Rise In Love, Sex, Spirituality, Uncategorized, Unhappiness, VaaniLeave a comment on Live-in, be BFFs, make lots of love, have children – do you really need to marry for doing all this?

Why we have shaadi ke terrible side effects

Is your marriage a beautiful friendship or is it just a “co-existential drama”?

A friend constantly keeps whining about his wife to us. He says she is dominating, she’s very conservative, she doesn’t want to get involved in his business and she does not want to learn to adapt with the times. He says he has stopped expecting anything other than physical intimacy from her. He wanted to know if there is a better way of handling their relationship.

I reminded him that the issue here was not about the gender. Men are known to be equally inflexible and dominating when dealing with their spouses. So, this isn’t about his wife. The moot point here is whether my friend can relate to his wife. And if she can relate to him. A marriage can be continuously exciting and romantic only if the couple in it are relating to each other than merely going through the daily motions of ‘maintaining’ the relationship.

I think many people don’t understand that it is not their marriage that keeps two people together. It is their friendship which acts as the bonding glue. When you strip away all the frills and the individual or societal expectations, what you are left with is the friendship of two people who come together and decide to live, learn and walk together through Life. True friendship is really about being yourself and allowing the other person to simply be too. Actually you don’t need the label of a marriage to certify or consummate a friendship. We don’t do it in the normal course, with other friendships we may have struck with people from either sex. So, why does it become so complicated, ever so often, in a marriage? The answer lies in the contractual nature of the relationship itself – as defined and practised by society today. While no scripture or tradition prescribes this contractual arrangement, society, over centuries and generations, has ended up, in the garb of pronouncing marriage to be a ‘sacred institution’, turning marriage into a business contract. You give me this. And I give you this in return. If you are this way, then I promise to be this way. Marriage, in a majority of cases, has ended up being nothing but a conditional acceptance of the ‘not-so-mutual’ affairs between two people. Great friendships, however, are never conditional – they thrive on mutual understanding, respect, brutal honesty and compassion. As long as two people can be this way, relating to each other, despite the circumstances, their friendship will survive, grow and thrive. Truly, in such cases, you don’t need a certificate, a label or any protection or safety net – legal or social. Of course, it is quite possible that sometimes, friendships grow through a marriage. So, it is not to be concluded that the institution is itself losing credibility.

I guess the question really is – how can two people continue to relate to each other without really worrying about the relationship?

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This, from my own personal experience, and what I have learned observing couples over the years, is possible when the ‘relating’ is continuous. Life is a long journey. Couples live-in together for at least 35+ years in a normal lifespan. Now this togetherness can be a beautiful friendship or just a co-existential drama enacted for both self and society. That is they “legally live-in together” in a marriage but don’t connect, don’t relate at all. When relating is continuous – there are no terms, no conditions, no impositions. There’s an expectant air about everything. Pretty much like the early weeks of two people getting to know each other. Waiting for the appointed meeting hour. Letting go. Giving space to each other. Disagreeing at times. But agreeing to disagree. There’s nothing predictable or taken-for-granted. Then, when everything’s fresh, despite the years of being together, then, the relating is continuous. Conversely, when the relating is continuous, the romance is still new and fresh.

Of course, Life’s design will challenge the greatest friendships. But only those that are built on the foundations of mutual respect and compassion__what I call relating__survive these challenges. Whatever label we give this friendship, I for one believe that walking hand-in-hand with someone you can relate to is the greatest gift you can have in Life. If you have that gift, celebrate and be grateful. If you don’t then stop kidding yourself. Have the courage to accept that while you may be in a relationship called marriage, there’s no relating in it anymore. So stop grieving, stop wishing your Life were different and stop complaining about your spouse. You are as much responsible for the non-relating in your relationship as your spouse is. And remember, you still have an option to go find that friend who’s out there waiting for you, and who will walk with you into the sunset!

Author AVIS ViswanathanPosted on September 14, 2016Categories UncategorizedTags Anger, Art of Living, AVIS Viswanathan, Companionship, Compassion, Divorce, Fall Like A Rose Petal, Friendship, Happiness, Happiness Curator, Happy Marriages, Inner Peace, Intelligent Living, Let Go, Life Coach, Live-In Relationships, Marriage, Osho, Pain, Relating, Relationships, Spirituality, Suffering, Uncategorized, Unhappiness, Unhappy Marriages, Zen1 Comment on Why we have shaadi ke terrible side effects

Life’s never an easy passage – so, my two-penny worth: “opt for happiness over luck”!

In a relationship that two people are getting into, what matters is – the two of them. No one else matters. Nothing else matters.

A reader wrote to me asking what I thought of the practice of matching horoscopes when couple are planning to marry. Now, I must confess that I know little about this practice. I respect the fact that astrology is a science and so I believe that matching horoscopes involves phenomenal expertise. It certainly is not mumbo-jumbo. I don’t know it. So, I will refrain from commenting on it.

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Even so, I will talk about what I have understood about the process from my own experience. When I proposed to Vaani in 1988, and when the families came round to accepting us, I remember that an astrologer had told my mother-in-law that he did not want to focus too much on the aspect of trying to match our horoscopes. He merely said that “they will be happy together”. I felt very relieved when I heard this because I didn’t want an astrologer’s opinion to force the families to reconsider their decision, especially when they had come around to accepting our alliance. Many, many years later, in 2004, in fact, when we took our horoscopes to Balan Nair, one of the greatest astrologers on the planet, he looked at them and beamed his trademark big, benevolent smile. He said that our horoscopes are unique in that both of us have our highs together and our lows together. He explained that normally when horoscopes are matched, both astrologers and parents of couples will want them to complement each other. Which is, when one of the two is going through a low, the other’s stars will hold up and vice versa. He said, in our case, we were both destined to go through our highs and lows at the same times – together. “This means you have only each other’s support, love and companionship to lean on in your hours of crisis. You don’t have to – and can’t – depend on the stars. Isn’t that a beautiful design,” he asked in amusement.

As I have often shared in the past, (my most recent post on astrology is here) I have leaned on astrology to give me data, to throw some light on my situations, but I have also learnt that astrology cannot solve our problems. It cannot change anyone’s Life. Even in the context of match-making, I feel what the astrologer did when he was asked to match Vaani’s and my horoscope was right – he preferred that we face Life together, as it would unfold, than deny our match on the grounds that the horoscopes were ‘incompatible’.

I reiterate that I have nothing against those who want to base all their Life decisions on astrology. I have nothing against the match-making process that employs astrology. Through my experience I have come to believe that you have to go through whatever lies ahead for you. No one can change that. Nothing can change that. So, if you have a companion alongside you, who’s willing to walk with you every step of the way, however treacherous the path may be, why would you want to trade his or her company for someone who’s more endowed with ‘luck’?

I guess this is also a matter of individual preference. I love the romance that uncertainty brings to my Life, and I love Vaani for also loving uncertainty the way I do. Neither of us craves for an easy passage and I think at the end of the day that’s what makes our companionship precious and our journey memorable. Yes, like everyone out there, we can do with a lot more luck, but we are almost always content with the grace that fills our sails making our journey happier than merely comfortable!  

Author AVIS ViswanathanPosted on July 11, 2016July 11, 2016Categories UncategorizedTags Art of Living, Astrologers, Astrology, AVIS Viswanathan, Balan Nair, Fall Like A Rose Petal, Happiness, Horoscopes, Inner Peace, Intelligent Living, Let Go, Live-In Relationships, Luck, Match-Making, Osho, Relating, Relationships, Spirituality, Suffering, Uncategorized, ZenLeave a comment on Life’s never an easy passage – so, my two-penny worth: “opt for happiness over luck”!

If you are willing, love and companionship are both possible in a nano-second

There is no lack of love in the world. You don’t find it because you are looking for it in the wrong places.

A friend feels that she has gone far beyond the “normal marriageable age” and is worried stiff that she is still single at 40. Her family adds to her sense of insecurity by painting dark scenarios of how lonely her Life will become in the next 20 years. Hearing her share her predicament, I wondered if she was actually sounding like Mahendra Kapoor in Kismat (1968, O.P.Nayyar, S.H.Bihari, Manmohan Desai)! On a more serious note, I believe if people say they can’t find love in Life they are probably looking for it in the wrong places.

First let us understand that being in love (as in the context of two people and their romantic liaison) need not necessarily entail marriage or living in together. True love is when you can relate to someone. And often you will find many, many, many people who you can relate to if you can drop conventional definitions of what your companion should be like.

AVIS Viswanathan - Being in love does not entail living in or marriageA friend of ours has been in a bad marriage for 35 years – of which, in the last 20 at least, he has been living separately. He has still not got a divorce from his wife because they spar every time they discuss it. He is 60 now. 4 years ago he found someone, who is 20 years younger to him, who brought meaning and joy into his Life. She has a daughter in high school and our friend has a daughter who is married (she just had a baby girl making our friend a grandfather!) and a son who is 30. Our friend and his lady friend have come to an understanding that they enjoy each other’s presence in their lives. And at the end of the day, he says, he feels cared for and happy. “Sex is important. Physical intimacy is required. But I don’t need to live in with her for these. We are celebrating each other’s presence in our lives. Our companionship means the world to me,” he adds.

This maturity and pragmatism is required when you are looking for love. Just because, per our social framework, a marriage is deemed as “sacred” and “mandatory”, it doesn’t mean that those who can’t either get married or stay in a marriage are “unholy” and “anti-social”. It doesn’t also mean that people who are single are incapable of receiving love or of loving another.

Here’s a disclaimer: I will never know what it means not to have companionship in Life. If there is something that I feel blessed about in Life it is the friendship I have with Vaani and the beautiful journey we share. So, forgive me if my perspective here does not come from personally relating to the experience of those who are seeking love in Life. Even so, I feel, from just looking around me, there are so many, many people out there who are wanting and waiting to be loved. If you drop your fixed ideas of who will make a great companion, you may well find love and companionship in a nano-second!

Author AVIS ViswanathanPosted on July 6, 2016July 6, 2016Categories UncategorizedTags Art of Living, AVIS Viswanathan, Being In Love, Companionship, Compassion, Disclaimer, Divorce, Fall Like A Rose Petal, Happiness, Happy Marriages, Inner Peace, Insecurity, Intelligent Living, Kismat, Live-In Relationships, Love, Mahendra Kapoor, Manmohan Desai, Marriage, O.P.Nayyar, Osho, Relating, S.H.Bihari, Society, Spirituality, Uncategorized, Vaani, Zen1 Comment on If you are willing, love and companionship are both possible in a nano-second

How about making the world better, one parent at a time?

The reason why you have a child is not for you to worry yourself thinking about getting him or her married.

A friend and I got together after several years. His daughter is now doing her final year in law school. She wants to be a sports lawyer. And wants to go abroad to pick up a Master’s degree in that field. But my friend and his wife want to get her married. “In my community, girls cannot go out of the country without getting married. Besides, what is the need for my daughter to do a Master’s when she has to actually focus on raising a family,” explained my friend. I was both shocked and disturbed by what my friend had to say. We had ordered a drink and in silent protest I cancelled my order. I felt very uncomfortable calling a man who had such primitive, regressive thoughts on parenting, my friend. I pretended I had an urgent call from home and said that I had to leave. But before I left I told him this: “This may seem like unsolicited advice. But please don’t come in the way of your child’s dream. You have not brought her into this world for her to only marry and raise children. She has the potential to make this world a better place. Please allow her to do that.”

I have no idea if my well-meaning appeal made any difference to my friend’s thinking. But what he had to say left me very, very concerned for what’s happening around us.

Parenting - Love vs MarriageI just don’t get this. Why would parents want to interrupt – and how could they – their childrens’ Life plans? I see so many parents around me vexing over the marriage of their young adult children as if the raison d’etre of these young folks is to have sex and procreate. If this sounds crass, let’s learn to live with it. Because that’s precisely what parents of my generation continue to do with their children, of course, they camouflage it in a socially acceptable framework called an “arranged marriage”. In fact, nothing seems to have changed. For they continue to perpetrate the same crime that’s been going on for generations now. I can’t quite understand why parents need to “worry” about their young adult children? Why not just let them be and allow them to figure out Life for themselves? Let them marry when they want, to who they want to live with. If they want to live in, and not marry, so be it. I would much rather that parents hoped that their children found true love, companionship and understanding than rush to get them married.

For a change to come in social outlook and individual actions, the younger generation needs to speak up too. In the name of respecting their elders, many are unwittingly letting regressive thinking prevail. But there seems to be some hope. Yesterday, my son directed me to a Facebook post by a young gentleman called Dhruv Deshpande . Google him and check out his post of June 13th – it has gone viral!!! He invites people of his generation to work on making the world a better place, one parent at a time: “…Today, the biggest propagators of the notion of rape culture, caste system, racism, Islamophobia, homophobia…are your parents’ generation, however latent it may be. Do not ignore it because you think you’re respecting your parents…If you trace it, squash it. Let it be an argument, a fight, a stand-off, but don’t give up on your parents by silently letting them be carriers of social evils…So, stop preaching online. Look behind your computer screens at the wrinkled little lovable bigot you’re living with. If you love them, tell them they’re wrong. They’re wrong a lot…” I feel Dhruv’s said it. And said it well. To the list of social evils he has there, I will add the scourge of arranged marriages in the name of “performing duty”, “keeping the honor of the community intact” and “in order for parents and grandparents to die peacefully”.

In my humble opinion, it is a grave mistake for a parent to not know what his or her child dreams of. It is a graver sin, of course, to come in the way of that dream, citing as an excuse, of all things, an arranged marriage!

Author AVIS ViswanathanPosted on June 16, 2016June 16, 2016Categories UncategorizedTags Art of Living, AVIS Viswanathan, Children, Companionship, Dhruv Deshpande, Fall Like A Rose Petal, Google, Happiness, Inner Peace, Intelligent Living, Let Go, Live-In Relationships, Love, Marriage, Osho, Parenting, Parenting Young Adults, raison d'etre, Regressive Parenting!, Spirituality, Uncategorized, Understanding, ZenLeave a comment on How about making the world better, one parent at a time?

Shaadi ke only side-effects must be Love, Companionship and Happiness!

Marrying off your children is not necessarily a parental responsibility. So you don’t actually need to obsess over it!

A couple who are related to us came home this morning to invite us for their son’s wedding. Soon, the conversation veered to why our nephew, who’s almost 30, was undecided about his marriage. I found the enquiry and analysis avoidable. Yes, parents and elders would love for children in the family to find companions and raise a family of their own. There is no problem with such an expectation. But obsessing over a person’s choice to delay or avoid marriage is, in my opinion, intrusion into the person’s privacy. I am quite sure my children too, who are in their 20s now, will come under such social scrutiny but at least they can celebrate that both Vaani and I are ‘chilled out’ and are the ‘non-obsessing’ type of parents!

MarriageI don’t think marriage as an institution is crumbling. But its relevance is beginning to be lost because of social and familial – read parental – attitudes towards it. When parents see the marriage of their children as a monumental responsibility they must discharge, when they see marriage as a vehicle for procreation than companionship, I think they are losing the plot. As parents we must only wish and pray for our children to find love in Life and for them to be happy. We must help our children realize the value in true companionship. And so we must not insist on marriage as a precondition for them to journey through Life.

When two people are attracted to each other, when they complement each other, when they want to live together, it is essentially their personal choice. If they want to have a wedding to commemorate their union, so be it. If they don’t want to marry, let it be so. A marriage cannot make two people happier than they are. It’s the being together that makes them happy; they are not happy because they are married! The label of marriage then is only an irrelevant social stamp of approval. Of course, people will argue that a marriage legitimizes ownership and sharing of material assets. But this is exactly what reduces a marriage to a business contract, a social arrangement of mutual and material convenience. This attitude must go.

I invite parents to seriously think this perspective over. Between love and companionship for your children and getting done with your duties and responsibilities, choose and champion the former. Your children, like you, are looking for happiness in relationships, they definitely don’t want to be stuck in a bad one trying to please you. Learn to appreciate and respect their choice.

Author AVIS ViswanathanPosted on May 14, 2016May 14, 2016Categories UncategorizedTags Art of Living, AVIS Viswanathan, Big Fat Indian Weddings, Companionship, Divorce, Fall Like A Rose Petal, Friendship, Happiness, Happy Marriages, Inner Peace, Intelligent Living, Live-In Relationships, Love, Marriage, Osho, Parenting, Shaadi Ke Side Effects, Uncategorized, WeddingLeave a comment on Shaadi ke only side-effects must be Love, Companionship and Happiness!
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