Everything, and everyone, has a place in your Life’s script!
A friend messaged me saying he felt he could have lived his Life differently. He said, looking back, he had lost over 20 years of his active Life to “unintelligent, stress-laded, worry-ridden” living. How do you forgive yourself for having squandered a large part of your Life, he asked me.
I in turn asked him: “How would you say sorry to another person if you wanted them to forgive you for what you have done to them?”
He replied: “I would say to them that I am really, really, sorry.”
So, I told him: “Look at yourself in the mirror and say that you are really, really, sorry! Simple.”
Indeed. There is no other way. You can’t go back and edit your Life. Nobody can. So, anger, grief or guilt over what you did or what has happened to you are of no use. But know that nothing happens in your Life without a reason. My friend may think he squandered his Life. You may think so of your Life too. But the truth is that everything has been perfectly arranged in your Life’s design for you to arrive at the point at which you are at this moment. You miss the magic of this beautiful design because you don’t see the value of what Life has taught you, of how each person who has touched your Life has made you better, stronger, wiser, of how your Life has happened not because of you, but often inspite you!
Here’s a little exercise you may want to do. Take out an hour today. Sit back and think about your Life. Can’t you connect the dots, the events, the people, the milestones, backwards in your Life today? Could you have connected them when an event was happening in your Life? Can the Scene 32 of your Life’s script ever have been possible without your Scene 12? Didn’t person X, who you disliked so much, teach you the art of living, even as person C, who you met so very briefly teach you how to give selflessly? Doesn’t, when you look back, everything in your Life seem so well ordained, so well fitted in its own place – like a beautiful jigsaw puzzle? This is why I truly believe that the Masterplan has no flaws!
So, reflect on the past, only to learn from it. The past always teaches you – something about you and about Life! The past can also hold you hostage, if you get trapped in asking why, why me and feeling angry or guilty over what happened. It is entirely up to you whether you want your past be your teacher or your captor!
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