Every choice you make teaches you a Life lesson.
The other day I was swapping channels and ended up watching Jagga Jassoos (2017, Anurag Basu, Ranbir Kapoor, Katrina Kaif). The movie’s lyrical format did not quite interest me. But its popular song Galti Se Mistake caught my imagination. Amitabh Bhattacharya has written the lyrics for this song, Pritam has scored the music and it is sung by Arijit Singh, Shubhanshu Kesharwani and Amit Mishra.
The catchy lead line of the song, – Yehi Umar Hai Karle, Galti Se Mistake (This is the age to do stuff, so don’t worry if you are making a mistake) – to me, has a deeply spiritual sense to it.
Back in end-2007, when Vaani and I were still trying to make sense of the crisis that we are still enduring – our bankruptcy (Read more in my Book here: Fall Like A Rose Petal) – we met a friend, Ashok, at the lobby of Savera Hotel in Chennai. Ashok led a large business globally and was visiting Chennai for the Music Season. We were meeting him after a few years. So he wanted us to fill him in on all that was happening with us. After we told him what we were experiencing and faced with, he took a deep breath and calmly said, “It’s okay! S%*$t happens in Life!” I found it difficult then to either appreciate his equanimity or his succinct analysis. I remember wondering, “How can he be so dismissive of a Rs.5-crore problem? How can he say it’s okay when we have no clue what we are going to do?”
A decade on, I can totally relate to Ashok’s perspective. Undoubtedly our choices in Life bring us to where we are. Our past has caused our present. And in the present we are seeding our future. But clearly, there is no point feeling guilty forever over your choices if they have blown up on your face. I have realized that, in any circumstance, we only do what we can do, what we think we have to do or what we believe in doing in. Now, sometimes, our choices may work out the way we want them to. And sometimes they may misfire. When things go awry, you will feel guilty because you will believe that your choices caused the situation you find yourself in. But holding on to that guilt, blaming yourself and the whole world for what has happened to you…none of this is really going to help you cope. Just accept that you did what you did, it didn’t work out, so, dust yourself and move on. “It’s okay! S%*$t happens!” is a better attitude than brooding and wallowing in self-pity and self-loathing. Learn from the experience though. Each choice, each situation is teaching you a Life lesson – so please learn.
And that is where the song from Jagga Jasoos resonated with me. It’s one Life we all have. If we keep fearing making choices or if we keep feeling guilt and remorse over the choices we have made, we will lead incomplete lives. We will end up suffering for way too long when all that suffering is so totally avoidable. Indeed! Yehi Umar Hai Karle, Galti Se Mistake!!! And if you end up in a mess, well, know that, “It’s okay! S%*$t happens!”