Have you ever felt miserable being happy?

You are the happiness you seek. Here’s how!

Happiness cannot be pursued. Because you may not always get what you want. But understanding, appreciating and accepting, what you get can make you happy.

3Consider this: despite all your hard work, you may not graduate. You may not get the car of your choice. Or an apartment in the neighborhood that your preferred. Or someone else may get the lucrative job that you wanted! Or a quirk of circumstance may deny you the family fortune. The ability to be happy despite not getting whatever you want and despite your circumstance is true happiness. And that ability is resident in each of us: in you, in me, in everyone!

So, the research done some years ago by a study at the University of Wisconsin-Madison on happiness, of which a French-Nepalese Buddhist monk, Matthieu Ricard, is a volunteer subject, intrigues me. Ricard has been dubbed the world’s happiest person, scoring significantly higher than most other volunteers tested. Without questioning the study findings, which undoubtedly may well be scientific, I would like to humbly submit that each of us has equal opportunity to be the world’s happiest person. Simply, the truth is that the world is full of happy people. But we allow our circumstances to suppress any expression of how happy we really are! That’s how we invite unhappiness into our lives.

Let’s say you are walking on the pavement on a rainy day, whistling ‘Raindrops are falling on my head….’, and an irreverent motorist splashes a dirty puddle of water on your work clothes. You stop whistling. And now you are angry. Does being angry mean that you have ceased to have the ability to be happy? Not at all. Your attention has shifted from whistling the memorable tune to hurling abuses at and showing a finger to that motorist. The moment you bring your attention to what you are feeling you will find your anger disappearing. And you will be happy again! Because being angry or being filled with negativity is not human nature. It makes us feel miserable.

Think about it. Don’t you feel miserable when you have been sad or jealous or angry or guilty? But have you ever, ever, felt miserable about feeling happy? I rest my case.

So, you don’t have to work hard at being happy. You are the happiness you seek. You must stop being anything else and just go back to being happy!