Life’s decree is our reality: live guilt-free

Journey through Life with zero guilt.

You did what you did. It’s over. To carry that guilt in you is like holding on to a glass of water with your arm stretched out. Do this exercise. Fill a tall glass of water to the brim. Hold it in your right hand. Make sure your right arm is stretched. Stay that way for as long as you can. Observe your reactions as the clock ticks away. Within a few minutes your arm starts aching, your face starts twitching and you begin to lose the fun in the game, the exercise! All you can feel is the pain. This is exactly what happens when you carry guilt in you.

In doing what you did, if you caused pain or injury to another person, please do apologize, from your inner recesses. Don’t worry about whether or not the other person is willing to accept your apology. Forgive yourself too. And live with the consequences of your action, whatever they may be, in acceptance, than with guilt.

“No amount of guilt can change the past, and no amount of worrying can change the future. Go easy on yourself, for the outcome of all affairs is determined by Allaah’s decree. If something is meant to go elsewhere, it will never come your way, but if it is yours by destiny, from it you cannot flee,” says Umar Ibn Al-Khattaab, (590 BC ~ 644 BC) who was a leading companion and adviser to the Islamic prophet Muhammad who later became the second Muslim Caliph after Muhammad’s death.

Allaah, Jesus or Ram, whosever decree it is, understand that Life has a mind of its own. And Life’s decree is our reality. Replace guilt in each situation with forgiveness__of yourself__and gratitude__to Life, for the experience and the learning. Live guilt-free!

Of Raavan, Ram and Jannat

The conditions inhibiting our inner peace are, interestingly, within us! Our true, native state is love and peace. But years of conditioning, in the way in which we have been raised and how we lead our lives, have suppressed that true state. Our only task is to undo that conditioning and remove all the layers of anxiety, misery, jealousy, self-doubt, anger, hatred and fear that suppress our true nature__and we too will return to being loving and peaceful!
I watched the Hindi movie Swades (2004, Ashutosh Gowariker, starring Shah Rukh Khan) another time last night. There’s a line in a beautiful song “Pal Pal Hai Bhaari” (Lyrics by Javed Akhtar, Music by A R Rahman) in the film that goes like this: “…man se Raavan jo nikaale, Ram uske man mein hai…”. It refers to the plight of the devotee who is signing the Lord’s praise but actually nurtures a lot of hatred and evil within. Raavan (the demon) and Ram (the Lord) are metaphors here. That line in the song is a reminder that if you really want to experience the Lord (love and peace) get rid of what’s tormenting you (the evil, whatever’s debilitating, in you)! The real import for all us, mortals, caught in the rat race, is that to be truly peaceful, we need to throw out all the conditions that inhibit our inner peace from our lives.
In Urdu there’s a word called jannat – it means paradise. Jannat is where love, peace, prosperity and all the good things in Life are in abundance. Most people believe jannat is something to be attained after completing our worldly tasks, after fulfilling our responsibilities, perhaps, in an after-Life.  But the truth is that there’s only this one lifetime, as we know it. And whatever has to be attained and experienced has to be done here. Now. By accepting and loving what is.
It is by resisting what is that we are piling on the layers of wasted emotions that restrain our true, native state, of love and peace, from flowering. Look at young children. They just submit themselves to Life, to their environment, to the conditions into which they are born – unquestioningly, without resisting. Which is why they are in complete bliss. We will do well to draw inspiration from children around us! And experience Ram and jannat – here, in the now!