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What is the point in clinging on to a dead relationship?

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Author AVIS ViswanathanPosted on May 1, 2021Format ImageCategories AVIS on Happyness, Equanimity, Happiness, Life Lessons, the happynesswalaTags Art of Living, AVIS on Happyness, AVIS Viswanathan, Fall Like A Rose Petal, Happiness, Inner Peace, Intelligent Living, Let Go, Life Lessons, Move On, Relationships, the happynesswala, the happynesswalasLeave a comment on What is the point in clinging on to a dead relationship?

Being silent is a great response

Author AVIS ViswanathanPosted on December 1, 2020Format ImageCategories AVIS on Happyness, Equanimity, Life Lessons, Silence, the happynesswalaTags Art of Living, AVIS on Happyness, Fall Like A Rose Petal, Grief, Grudge, Guilt, Happiness, Inner Peace, Intelligent Living, Life Coach, Life Coaching, Life Lessons, Relationships, Silence, the happynesswala, the happynesswalas1 Comment on Being silent is a great response

When you uncling, your suffering stops

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Author AVIS ViswanathanPosted on July 19, 2019Format ImageCategories Happiness, Inner Peace, Intelligent Living, Let Go, Life, Pain, Spirituality, Suffering, UncategorizedTags Art of Living, AVIS on Happyness, AVIS Viswanathan, Fall Like A Rose Petal, Happiness, Happiness is a Decision, Inner Peace, Intelligent Living, Let Go, Letting Go, Life, Life Coach, Life Coaching, Life Lessons, Life Quotes, Move On, Non-Suffering, Pain, Relationships, Spirituality, Suffering, the happynesswala, Uncategorized, UnclingLeave a comment on When you uncling, your suffering stops

When you can’t relate to someone, consider the relationship as dead

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Author AVIS ViswanathanPosted on July 18, 2019Format ImageCategories Happiness, Inner Peace, Intelligent Living, Life, Spirituality, UncategorizedTags Art of Living, AVIS on Happyness, AVIS Viswanathan, Blood Relations, Dysfunctional Relationships, Fall Like A Rose Petal, Family, Happiness, Happiness is a Decision, Happyness, Inner Peace, Inspiring Happiness, Inspiring Happyness, Intelligent Living, Life, Life Coach, Life Coaching, Life Lessons, Life Quotes, Relating, Relationship, Relationships, Spirituality, the happynesswala, UncategorizedLeave a comment on When you can’t relate to someone, consider the relationship as dead

Life is simple, you make it complex though…

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Author AVIS ViswanathanPosted on June 22, 2019Format ImageCategories Happiness, Inner Peace, Intelligent Living, Life, Spirituality, UncategorizedTags Art of Living, AVIS on Happyness, AVIS Viswanathan, Crisis, Fall Like A Rose Petal, God, Happiness, Happiness is a Decision, Inner Peace, Intelligent Living, Life, Life Coach, Life Coaching, Life is a Limited Period offer, Life Lessons, Life Quotes, Money, Relationships, Religion, Society, Spirituality, the happynesswala, UncategorizedLeave a comment on Life is simple, you make it complex though…

Protect your inner peace and happiness!

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Author AVIS ViswanathanPosted on March 22, 2019Format ImageCategories Happiness, Inner Peace, Intelligent Living, Life, Spirituality, UncategorizedTags Art of Living, AVIS on Happyness, AVIS Viswanathan, Dignity, Fall Like A Rose Petal, Happiness, Inner Peace, Inspiring Happiness, Inspiring Happyness, Intelligent Living, Jab Tak Hai Jaan, Life, Life Coach, Life Coaching, Life Lessons, Life Quotes, Non-Suffering, Pain, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Spirituality, Suffering, the happynesswala, Uncategorized, Unhappiness, Unhappy1 Comment on Protect your inner peace and happiness!

The art of unclinging

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Author AVIS ViswanathanPosted on March 17, 2019March 17, 2019Format ImageCategories Art of Living, Happiness, Intelligent Living, Life, Spirituality, UncategorizedTags Anger, Art of Living, AVIS Viswanathan, Cling, Fall Like A Rose Petal, Habit, Happiness, Honest Conversations, Inner Peace, Inspiring Happiness, Inspiring Happyness, Intelligent Living, Life, Life Coach, Life Coaching, Life Lessons, Life Quotes, Marriage, Misery, Reflection, Relationships, Spirituality, Suffering, the happynesswala, Tobacco Addiction, Uncategorized, UnclingLeave a comment on The art of unclinging

It’s possible – dosti, break-up ke baad!

In any relationship, be true to who you are; protect your inner peace.

Our neighbor, a venerable 88-year-old man, passed away last week. Vaani and I visited his family. His son was there, by his mother’s side, meeting all the visitors and accepting their condolences. Among the visitors was the son’s ex-wife, an amiable lady. The couple may well have been living separately, but they did not seem cold towards, or alienated from, each other. They treated each other with dignity and grace. She offered to help with looking after the guests and the rituals. And he politely thanked her for her gesture.

It was beautiful to witness their quiet, albeit surprising, camaraderie.

Here was a couple who had separated, as I understand, years ago. Yet, in the time of her ex-husband’s grief, the lady displayed great compassion in being there and supporting him in whatever way she could. I am sure they had their differences of opinion about Life and living together – which is perhaps why they separated. But they didn’t appear to have let their differences drown their respect for each other.

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That’s an interesting way to live Life, I thought to myself, especially after two people have made a choice to go their ways.

I have always believed and maintained that if two people cannot relate to each other – irrespective of the relationship they have – they must separate. For instance, I can’t relate to my mother. We have had a dysfunctional relationship ever since my teens. Over the last few years, I have consciously maintained a distance from her. And, resultantly, I have had to be distant from my father too. I am sure my parents hold a view that my choice to “continue to remain estranged”, at my age of 50+, is wrong. But I know that my chemistry with my mother just doesn’t work. I can’t relate to anything that she thinks, says or does. It is proven beyond reasonable doubt that we cannot hold a calm, mature conversation between us. So, in my humble opinion, I believe it is best we remain distant from each other. I am not justifying that my choice is right; all I am saying is that it helps us both go on with our lives with dignity and inner peace.

Well, that’s one way of looking at Life. And, as was evident in the way my late neighbor’s son and his ex-wife engaged with each other last week, there appears to be another way to live Life too. Which is that people can go their ways and yet they can engage with each other meaningfully, minus all the acrimony. Or simply, dosti (friendship) is still possible, even after a break-up!

The bottomline, as I understand, in any relationship, is this: be true to who you are, protect your inner peace. If staying with someone makes you feel miserable, if you can’t relate to that someone, then move on. But having moved on, if you can still be cordial from a distance, be so. However, if you feel being distant alone is best for both of you, be so. Either way, be happy, be at peace with yourself.

Author AVIS ViswanathanPosted on February 2, 2018February 2, 2018Categories Happiness, Inner Peace, Intelligent Living, Life, Spirituality, UncategorizedTags Art of Living, AVIS Viswanathan, Break-Up, Compassion, Divorce, Dosti, Fall Like A Rose Petal, Friendship, Happiness, Inner Peace, Intelligent Living, Life, Marriage, Relating, Relationships, Respect, Separation, Spirituality, Uncategorized, VaaniLeave a comment on It’s possible – dosti, break-up ke baad!

When a marriage is on the rocks…

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Author AVIS ViswanathanPosted on October 3, 2017Format ImageCategories Happiness, Inner Peace, Intelligent Living, Life, Pause & Reflect, Spirituality, UncategorizedTags Art of Living, AVIS Viswanathan, Change, Divorce, Fall Like A Rose Petal, Happiness, Honest Conversations, Inner Peace, Intelligent Living, Life, Life Coach, Life Lessons, Life Quotes, Marriage, Pause & Reflect, Relationships, Spirituality, UncategorizedLeave a comment on When a marriage is on the rocks…

On what ‘Love’ truly is…

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Author AVIS ViswanathanPosted on September 26, 2017September 26, 2017Format ImageCategories Happiness, Inner Peace, Intelligent Living, Life, Pause & Reflect, Spirituality, UncategorizedTags Art of Living, AVIS Viswanathan, Deepti Naval, Fall Like A Rose Petal, Gay, Happiness, Homosexuality, Inner Peace, Intelligent Living, Life, Love, Loving, Memories in March, Pause & Reflect, Relating, Relationships, Rituparno Ghosh, Sanjoy Nag, Spirituality, UncategorizedLeave a comment on On what ‘Love’ truly is…

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