Today’s Podcast reminds us that we are unhappy when we focus on what we don’t have. Instead make a conscious choice to focus on what you have – and be happy!
Listen time: 2:50 minutes
In today’s Podcast, I talk about celebrating what we have instead of mourning over what we don’t have! Abundance thinking, as opposed to scarcity thinking, is rewarding!
Listen time: 5:04 minutes
Suspend all scientific reasoning and simply see how beautiful each moment is.
A friend and I got together for a drink last week. He told me that he had concluded that Life is meaningless, that it has no logic. He has been through a bitter divorce. And he has recently lost his job. He said, “I loved my wife dearly. But she wanted to reunite with her boyfriend from college. I gave my heart and soul to my company. But just because the industry we operate in is going through a downturn, I was laid off as part of a sweeping job-cut policy. There’s no logic in Life at all yaar, AVIS!”
Unwittingly, my friend has stumbled upon the biggest secret about Life. That it has no logic! To me, Life’s full of magic though!!
To see the magic in you, in your Life, around you, you must stop being an adult, abandon all logic and just see everything with a child-like wonder.
While our logical temperament has been honed by years of education and social conditioning and while it has helped us grow our careers, it has really stunted our evolution as individuals. Consider your own Life. You too, like me, like my friend there, have problems. And, logically, you want those problems resolved. So if the problem is financial, you may want your income to go up and your expenses to come down. Logical thinking. But what do you do when your efforts at boosting your income come to a naught? You get depressed. Depression leads to scarcity and negative thinking. If your problem is a relationship, you will want to sit down and resolve it. But the other party is just not interested. You grieve. You suffer. If your problem is your health, logically, medication should work. But the doctors are wringing their hands in despair, because they say their efforts are not working. You start believing it’s all over. In all this logical thinking, in all three contexts, you are tormented, you are anxious and you are not present in your every waking moment. You are living in your problems.
And this is where you are missing the magic of the present. Of the myriad opportunities that Life is still offering you. Remember that despite all the problems you are faced with and are seemingly drowning in, Life is flowing, unraveling itself. Magically. There’s magic everywhere. In the rising sun. In the chirping birds. In the smile of a child. In the few friends who are still standing by you. In the fact that you have a home, food to eat and someone to call family. When you are allowing yourself to be gripped in the stranglehold of your problems, you are missing all this magic.
Your being wedded to your problems may appear to you to be very logical – after all, you want to solve your problems. But there are some problems that you cannot solve. Only time and Life can heal and solve them. This is why being stuck demanding to understand Life’s logic kills your ability to see all the magic. As American author Nora Roberts says, “Magic exists. Who can doubt it, when there are rainbows and wildflowers, the music of the wind and the silence of the stars? Anyone who has loved has been touched by magic. It is such a simple and such an extraordinary part of the lives we live.”
I experienced this extraordinary part of my Life yesterday – one more time! Vaani and I were at a wedding last evening. As we awaited our turn to greet the young couple, we saw a picture from their engagement show up on the LCD display – they were exchanging rings. I remarked to Vaani that I had never given her a ring in all our Life together – not even at our wedding, 28 years ago! So I quipped that I would get her a cheap, plastic ring for Rs.10/- because that’s what we could afford now! (Read more on why we can’t afford anything better here: Fall Like A Rose Petal) Vaani smiled back at me and told me this with a straight face: “You know what, get me a pumpkin instead, I plan to make sambar tomorrow!” We both erupted laughing even as other guests looked on, amused.
That moment, that was sheer magic! Such moments are waiting to happen to you too. But are you tuned in? You don’t have to do much. Simply, love the Life you have! Know that it won’t last forever. Abandon all logic. Then, and only then, will you see the magic – and beauty – in Life!
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Abundance is available all around us, in us, 24×7, and it is free!
What you don’t have will always torment you. And what you have will almost always be taken for granted; in fact, it will often be forgotten! If you can swap these two patterns of thinking, you will arrive at a perpetual state of inner peace and happiness! Which is, take for granted what you don’t have and instead rejoice over what you do have!
Two days ago, Vaani and I had to cross a busy, one-way street – full of people, speeding vehicles, hawkers and litter! We had just finished a rather exacting day – having had to examine a fully-blown, 70mm, version of our Life and our immediate, attendant problems. By the evening, we were exhausted, battered and bruised. But crossing the busy street required deft negotiations with drivers who were in a tearing hurry, who were unwilling to stop to make way for us. And when a good bloke did slow down, fellow pedestrians elbowed us and lunged forward to scoot across with Bolt-like efficiency! So for several minutes we were waiting, and waiting, to cross the street. At one point, I realized, Vaani was holding my hand. It was a beautiful moment of discovery. It was energizing. I realized how blessed I was, in these times, to have a companion that, literally, was willing to walk hand in hand with me. I was drenched in the abundance of that moment, in the beauty of that realization! All our problems seemed momentarily insignificant. What mattered was the joy of knowing how blessed my Life is! I actually had this song from Tapasya (1976, Anil Ganguly, M.G.Hashmat, Ravindra Jain, Kishore Kumar, Aarti Mukherjee, Parikshit Sahni, Rakhee) arise to play in my head just then!!!
Abundance is available all around us, in us, 24×7, and it is free. But we don’t even consider it as available. What hogs human attention, most of the time, is the negativity that we create around us. And from within us. Everything seems to be wrong with the world. Hunger, disease, suffering, terrorism. And everything seems to be wrong with your world. Lack of time. A job you dislike. A relationship you would rather not be in. Financial insecurity. A sense of lack of direction and Purpose in Life. And, perhaps, a lot, lot more – you have so many problems that an immediate shortlist is, well, impossible; it is always a long litany of woes! Then there’s your view of the world. Where you imagine that others are always better off, happier, wealthier than you are. So, that comparison unleashes a whole set of new problems – both imagined and real! With so much negativity, how can one tune into abundance?
Staying wedded to what you don’t have is why you are steeped in scarcity thinking. Celebrating and loving, and being grateful for what you have is abundance thinking! Noted author and speaker, my guru, Dr.Wayne Dyer, explained it so simply, so powerfully: “Abundance is not something we acquire. Abundance is something we tune into.”
Indeed, to be happy and peaceful we have no other choice but to celebrate the abundance in and around us! And to celebrate abundance, we must align our intention, attention and energy! All of us have the right intentions. Because none of us wakes up planning or wanting to do a bad job or to live unhappily. So, from an intention perspective, we are all winners. Each of us wants to do good, be happy and be successful. But where is our attention? Almost all of the time, our attention is not on what we want to do or what we want to become. That is, our attention is never on our intention. Our attention is on what we don’t have, on our wants and on what worries us. So, fundamentally our attention is steeped in scarcity while our intention is to be soaked in abundance. Isn’t it jarring? Yengeyo Yetho Udhaikithu-illaya?
That really explains why we are all caught in the throes of depression and suffering. Being grateful for the blessings and abundance in your Life is a sure way of driving out depression. None of us forgets to brush our teeth in the mornings. But how many of us remember to be grateful when we wake up for another day to live, another day to love and be loved, another day to serve and be served?
Here’s a deal: forget the Life you have had so far, consider how you want to live the rest of your Life! Look at, and celebrate, what’s available – than what is missing! Then you will discover that your Life is always soaked in abundance!