If you can stay tuned to the impermanence of everything, your inner peace will never be disturbed.
For some vague reason Google is threatening to lock me out of my Google Drive account. I was immediately seized with concern for my files and data. A wave of worry swept through me. But a few minutes into the worrying episode, a certain peace arose from within. I said to myself: “Hey! I am not my Google Drive. I haven’t been locked out of Life! Let me figure out a way to deal with this.”
So I got down to working on reaching Google’s Drive Support Team. Interestingly, as I am discovering, searching on Google for an answer works for most stuff, except for any resolution to the problems that pertain to their own policies or inefficiencies. But I have been dealing with all of this calmly. The entire experience is very frustrating, but as I am realizing, responding to Life situations with trained equanimity works very well.
Training yourself in equanimity is simple. First begin with (re)-knowing that you are not this body. You have heard of this from millions of wise folk before. Even so, while you know that this is the intelligent way to live, you conveniently slip into the worrying mode over anything concerning your body. For instance, you know, just as I do and everyone else does, that the body will die one day. Yet you grieve over whatever happens to your body. You grow older, you grieve. You grieve if you lose hair, if your hair becomes grey, if you become fat or if your body is affected by health challenges. Let’s further simplify this. When you feel hungry or thirsty, are you feeling so or is your body feeling so? To be sure, it is your body that is feeling so. The body is like a car. And you are the driver. Can a car drive on its own unless the driver wills it, drives it and leads it? The car needs food and that’s what fuel, oil, coolant and such are for the car. Yet, clearly, the driver has more power, more control than the car. Similarly the real you, is the one you need to be aware of and identify with; and not attach yourself to your body or with your physical identity.
Once you get to that state of self-awareness, self-realization, when you know that you are not this body, when you are not what you think you are, you will be able to handle any ‘real world’ situation. A computer crashing, a job loss, a break-up, betrayal, financial loss, anything! Realize that you are not your qualifications, job, social position, your bank balance, your worry, your anxiety or your fears. You are truly above all of this. When this realization dawns upon you, you are already liberated and a free spirit. This is what equanimity is.
You may not want to believe that you can immediately reach this state. But know that you can be there in a nano-second if you want to. Know also that when you get to this state you will be unmoved. When you are unmoved, nothing – and no one – can disturb your inner peace!