Insecurity is a sign of inherently mistrusting the process of Life.
On the way to a coffee place that we frequent, we see a beautiful bungalow that has the name “Mehfuz” (pronounced “Mehafooz”) written on its gate. “Mehfuz” means “the secure, the safe” in Arabic. Every time I see that word a sense of serenity pervades me. It is such a reassuring feeling…the energy that “Mehfuz” creates when you say it to yourself! If you understand Urdu or Hindi, you will feel that sense of security that the word conveys, even as you merely read it and infer its meaning!
When you deeply reflect on it, “Mehfuz” communicates how secure the whole Universe, all of Creation in fact, is! There is magic and beauty in the rising and setting sun, in your being loved and in your ability to be loving, in the roof over your head, the food on your plate and the clothes that protect you from the elements. This is the security that the natural order of your Universe offers you. These are unmistakable signs that you are “Mehfuz”, you are safe, you are secure – that you are being taken care of, looked after and provided for!
Yet, if you feel insecure about Life, if you find it hard to trust the process of Life, if you succumb to worry, to fear, to anxiety, how can Life, or anyone, help you? The primary cause for insecurity in Life is when you don’t know what lies ahead – when you don’t know if there will be respite from a debilitating health challenge, when you don’t know if you can unentangle a relationship mess, when you don’t know if you will have enough money, when you don’t know if your children will find good vocations and settle down and when you don’t know how so many, many other open-ended Life situations will pan out. Instead of asking what will happen, ask, why do you want to know what will happen? You must know the answer to every question, you must have the solution to every problem, only if you are causing all your Life to happen, if you are, well, the Creator. But Life happens not because of you, but often, in spite of you. Besides, your own creation as a human being, with no apparent manufacturing defects, is a miracle. For perspective, just consider what would have happened, how would your Life be, had you been created as the swine that gives the flu instead of being the human that gets the flu? Simply, the order of the Universe is that you are who you are, you have what you have, you have not got what you don’t have yet and what wasn’t meant to be yours anymore has been taken away from you. If you understand this truth about your Life, you will not hanker for security and you will not succumb to insecurity.
A question you need ask yourself is, do you feel secure, do you feel a sense of inner peace, when you pray? Or when you visit a place a worship? If you do, then why do you feel insecure when you are out of it – out of the prayer, the worship? Isn’t the whole Universe a Higher Energy’s manifestation – for your joy, for you to experience? If you can’t feel “Mehfuz” in your Universe where everything, everyone has been created by this Higher Energy, that’s more intelligent and compassionate that all its creations put together, then, you are missing the blessing in being human! Insecurity, therefore, is a sign of inherently mistrusting the process of Life.
I will leave you with Mirza Ghalib’s (1767~1869) couplet that, to me, sums up the need for each of us to feel secure, feel safe, being who we are, with where are and with what we have! Ghalib writes: “Ghalib Sharab Peene De Masjid Mein Baith Kar, Ya Woh Jagah Bata Jahan Khuda Nahi.” It means: “Allow me to drink in a mosque or tell me a place where God isn’t present?”